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rachel0718 58F
20470 posts
5/18/2016 8:55 am

Very well put. Possibilities are endless if you are open to them and can be in the moment. There is so much more than just a booty call.


Rachel Mae


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
5/18/2016 9:09 am

Great post.....

For me...there has to be more than the mashing of personal body parts.

I need to be attracted of course...but I also need to feel a connection...to know and like the person. Random hook ups with unknown people is not something I'm capable of.....no matter how horny I may be...lol

In my opinion sorta crazy and potentially dangerous to do so....but that's just me...

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
5/18/2016 9:53 am

Define what you mean by, "the whole idea of getting together just to fuck".

I'm past the age where fucking dudes in club bathrooms or getting picked up at a bookstore appeals to me, that's a youngster's game. However, I think there is still a place for relationships that are more transitory in nature. It doesn't take the place of making love with someone you have a deep connection with. Sometimes it's nice to have someone you are attracted to and think is basically a nice person to help you scratch an itch.

Think of it like this, lunch at McDonalds can be pretty tasty but it doesn't take the place a high end steak dinner with a good whiskey at the end.


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
5/18/2016 9:56 am

Like I have always said if there is no chemistry then there is nothing..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


lustasaurus 46F
1838 posts
5/18/2016 11:13 am

My earliest explorations were with someone who "got me," sexually. Perhaps I was ruined after that.

Later, I tried shallow sex. Strangers came into my home and started getting down to business very quickly. I felt violated, but I also believed that there was little I could do about it - I had arranged these meets, and it would be rude to stop the encounter. These were not bad people; I had simply removed my own consent. I checked out, mentally, and shut down my body awareness. I was celibate for awhile after that, and then I married a man who does not initiate at all.

Guys usually fail to realize that women are about 30% as likely to orgasm during hookups as men. In my experiences, almost none of the men made an attempt to get me off. That was fine with me - orgasms can be very personal, and these situations did not feel personal. But then, what's the point? There's simply not much in it for us.

My experiences left me so scarred that it takes a lot for me to open up again. I don't mind being objectified or reduced to parts from a distance, but for one-on-one experiences, I need a connection. I need an understanding lover. I need to be seen as me, not just "someone."

I've been lucky enough to find an understanding enough lover, but they're few and far between. "Boom."


KItkat1415 61F  
20051 posts
5/18/2016 11:38 am

I'm of two minds on this post-
I completely agree with you that we need connection and hook-ups feel shallow to me now.
But, you are moving. So even there I am happy for you and sad that you are moving.
San Diego is losing a great guy.
mm,
kk

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nightsoul1962 61F
17828 posts
5/18/2016 11:53 am

Very well written!!!

WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING


VenusRising11 71F
4677 posts
5/18/2016 2:41 pm

I know about that emptiness afterward, and I'm not going there again.



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Nourish my mind.


ronnieco1 63F
22 posts
5/21/2016 12:33 am

I am excited for you and your next chapter...I do hope you will keep in touch...you have my number and email...K


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