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When Meeting Someone For Your First Intimate Encounter???
When Meeting Someone For Your First Intimate Encounter??? When meeting someone for your first intimate encounter are you someone who prefers to host, not to host or meet at a mutual location? Or maybe you are someone who does not have a preference either way? I do not have sex at the first meet however if we decide to meet again for adult fun I prefer a hotel/motel as a mutual location. Sharing my home where I raise my with someone who is still technically a stranger seems preposterous to me. Going to his home could be just as dangerous. A mutual location seems safe until we build that trust factor. It seems logical. What are your thoughts? What do you prefer ? Are you someone who likes to host, not to host, meet at a mutual location for your first intimate encounter? |
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Whatever makes you comfortable is fine by me. After all, in any encounter when people are at ease it makes for better communication and you can focus on the person you're meeting. NO Brainer...
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5/11/2017 5:36 pm |
I like a mutual location . Feel it is best and safest for both involved. I am also a hotel guy.
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5/11/2017 5:36 pm |
I would agree on the hotel. I get it safety wise, but the is also something naughty about sex in a hotel.
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5/11/2017 5:38 pm |
Dinner and drinks first, maybe even a few dates before moving on to a physical relationship.It's nice to be able to converse with your mate otherwise it's just a physical act and doesn't mean all that much. Definitely a nice hotel until there's mutual trust.
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5/11/2017 5:39 pm |
I prefer a mutual agreed location for coffee, or lunch on a first meeting. Odds are that will not have sex on that meeting but I also will not rule it out. A hotel or motel room in a moderately priced hotel or motel for the first sexual encounter. If we like each other after that then we can discuss other options for me possibly hosting or not. I have burned in the past and I am looking for a possible relationship are getting to know each other.
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Maybe so.... First meet is at a nice hotel with room service and nice bathroom having nice shower or extra big tub. Just nice Cum to my blog and respond. Have a great kissing fun time.
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Mutual comfort and safety are most important to a mutual time and location for adult pleasures and fun
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5/11/2017 5:42 pm |
Always a Mutual Location...
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Somewhere where we both feel comfortable. A neutral ground would be fine if you felt uncertain coming to my place. It would not feel right to go to your place where you have young children. And it would not sound right if you had asked me to come to your place.
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like you Jeanie, I prefer a hotel until I get to know them better.
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I think a mutual location is best
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Without comfort, the sex won't be good. Gotta be comfortable and build that trust as you suggested, indeed. So neutral ground is ideal and yes, a hotel would be neutral. Me, well, the last time I hooked up with somebody from this site.... well we just did it out in the streets; neutral enough for ya?
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Hotel is probably best because you never know what is going to happen.
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It looks like you have this figured out babe. For me...the whole idea of meeting someone I met online frightens me to my core. However, it is the new world. If I can get comfortable with a woman I meet here before I actually meet her in person that's a big plus. I'm so afraid of showing up somewhere and not seeing the person I hope to see. Of course, I want her to be comfortable with me too. Then, I would choose a neutral highly visible location like a casino as the first meeting place. Does that sound good?
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I trust my judgement when I meet people and I do not host. Either they do, or it's a no go. Teens in da haus! MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life . Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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a mutual agreed upon location is best to meet, met someone once, all she wanted was to go to a hotel and get it on, we chatted, then parted ways, and after chatting a few more time, she still wanted a room and said goodbye
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Before you meet there should be a good conversation about what each person is looking for and pics should be shared to see if the metal attraction is there ..if they won't show you who they are then they are hiding someone ..sex on the first meet depends if you are so in awhile over the person that you just need to please him or let him please you..usually this will decide if you will also see this person again ..
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Before you meet there should be a good conversation about what each person is looking for and pics should be shared to see if the metal attraction is there ..if they won't show you who they are then they are hiding someone ..sex on the first meet depends if you are so in awhile over the person that you just need to please him or let him please you..usually this will decide if you will also see this person again ..
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Mutually agreed upon hotel/motel. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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I do not host myself for various reasons. I have met in neutral locations a couple of times which typically is just a lets meet up and set up another date to play if we want. But I have gone to other people's homes first if we have talked for a while and things seem okay.
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if we want sex who cares but not at each others homes however for me before I have thought about sex we are already in a relationship before even our first date because we would have had hours and hours of conversation ....so on that note first sex has to happen away from of course a family unit that would know whats going on!
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I say a mutual location, people live in this oh love at first site or turn on at first world, I say safety at first site
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Most comfortable for me is to talk a good bit before meeting in person, so that some level of trust is built up to carry into the meet, which I strongly prefer be a public place. If it goes well, I will host or we can do a hotel room. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women Things i miss most about relationships
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I am comfortable meeting at their place or mutual location. Most often it is at a mutual location. Cheers!
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I agree fully with you to meet with no expectations at mutual spot. Then when you decide to become intimate an hotel or motel works best. When would you like to meet me LOL
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Men don't usually face the dangers that women encounter when meeting strangers. However, bad things have happened to men when meeting someone new for the first time. I never rush into anything when I meet women and couples online. I get to know them very well....not just sexual information, but also info about their everyday lives. I have a two trusted friends who are very discreet. When I am meeting a woman or couple for the first time, I always tell them who I'm meeting with. Should I become a victim of a nutcase, my friends have the info that can be used to catch the people. I learned this from a couple many years ago. I've found that a lot of men, women and couples do the same thing..... Most couples that I've played with usually host. I do host at times, and I've also used hotel rooms.
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familiar/mutual location would be better option.. leading to composed interaction that culminate in mutually satisfying encounter
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for me, whatever is more comfortable for the girl, but if I can choose I would prefer in my home. besitos
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When I got divorced, I stayed in the house with my then 18 yo daughter for a year and a bit, before it was sold. She met all my dates, those who came home with me. I met women in hotels when I was travelling to their town. If they were local, mine or theirs was just as good, and cheaper. I can understand if there are young kids in someones house, the limitations. I did not introduce any of my dates to my younger one, and no dating at the times she was staying. I do not have a standard way to meet people. Whatever suits each case.
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It depends on how well we got to know each other before deciding to get intimate. Of course, as a man, I have less to worry about.
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Mutual location.
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I prefer to host so I don't have to drag all my meds with me. AB No Bozos
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5/12/2017 4:46 am |
You are a wise woman Jeanie! I have not met anyone for anything but lunch, but agree with your thoughts. Visit my blog @ rskinney62 & have a SEXY day!!
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5/12/2017 5:23 am |
wherever she is comfortable, I prefer a hotel.
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The ladies that I have met on her we were at a place to eat and had a good time. No sex with two of them at that time the other lady we had some fun in her car with a lot of hot playing. My gf we met for the first time in a hotel for a night of very hot sex! Butch
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Mutual neutral location is my preference always (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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Neutral place
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I have a great place and it's fun to fantasize about having fun here, but I would not actually propose such an adventure. If I had the opportunity to spend the night with a woman I would select the most luxurious hotel available. I want room service, a private Jacuzzi, and a bed that feels like angel wings. My featured post this week: Pulling Fantasy Sex Out of My Ass.
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Meet at a mutual place
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First, you must actually meet in a safe mutual location with really no expectation of sex at that time. Endless email, pix, calls do not really make the best introductions. Look into each others eyes, listen carefully to each other to see where and what this relationship is to each party. Body language speaks volumes and can really fill in all the unchecked squares - or run the other way. We use age, certain body parts, build, and the most flattering pictures as qualifications for partners. Chemistry, mental ease, sensuality, or just being a real sex magnet can make a big difference. If none of this makes either party hot and at each then parts ways with a handshake and good feelings. No harm, no foul. If this looks like a good deal, then I'm looking for a date in a neutral, private, safe place for both parties in a motel/hotel for at least a few times. Relax and enjoy! After that, well we are both consenting adults.
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i don't have any objection in hosting,i've done it before,but it all depends on the relations your looking for,if it's only sexual encounters,then i'd go to a motel,but if it's for a long term relation,i'd like to host and cook her a home made diner,to sweep her of her feet.
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I don't have a preference. I've done all 3 options and am open to whatever makes my partner most comfortable because if they aren't comfortable its not going to be fun for anyone.
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I usually like to host. I feel more comfortable in my surroundings, I feel if your looking for a long term it's more intimate than a motel. If you just want to fuck than a mutual site is more than adequate!
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A mutual agreed location,,neither home. Sex that would depend on the minute; but sex is not expected.
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Whatever makes you comfortable is fine by me. After all, in any encounter when people are at ease it makes for better communication and you can focus on the person you're meeting. NO Brainer...
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First meet for me is a public location, place to eat, mall, something, first sexual encounter is at a motel, because like you say it's more safe, and knowing my luck if I let someone come to my house that first time, I'd wind up with a fatal attraction scenario
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I like a mutual location . Feel it is best and safest for both involved. I am also a hotel guy.
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I would agree on the hotel. I get it safety wise, but the is also something naughty about sex in a hotel.
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Thank you for stopping by and stating your opinion
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Dinner and drinks first, maybe even a few dates before moving on to a physical relationship.It's nice to be able to converse with your mate otherwise it's just a physical act and doesn't mean all that much. Definitely a nice hotel until there's mutual trust.
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I agree with you!!
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I prefer a mutual agreed location for coffee, or lunch on a first meeting. Odds are that will not have sex on that meeting but I also will not rule it out. A hotel or motel room in a moderately priced hotel or motel for the first sexual encounter. If we like each other after that then we can discuss other options for me possibly hosting or not. I have burned in the past and I am looking for a possible relationship are getting to know each other.
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Maybe so.... First meet is at a nice hotel with room service and nice bathroom having nice shower or extra big tub. Just nice
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Mutual comfort and safety are most important to a mutual time and location for adult pleasures and fun
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I prefer to meet in a mutual location until the trust is built between both parties. Motels and hotels are my choices so you can relax and enjoy easier than entertaining at either of the others home or apartment.
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Always a Mutual Location...
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Not that I have been lucky enough to do either my preference would be a public first meet then a neutral meeting location like you discussed....
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Nearly all of my first intimate encounters have been at a mutual location.
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Absolutely, a nice hotel, with room service and a great big hot tub, with maybe a casino downstairs for in-between times. post 3982980
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I prefer a mutual agreed location for coffee, or lunch on a first meeting. Odds are that will not have sex on that meeting but I also will not rule it out. A hotel or motel room in a moderately priced hotel or motel for the first sexual encounter. If we like each other after that then we can discuss other options for me possibly hosting or not. I have burned in the past and I am looking for a possible relationship are getting to know each other.
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Maybe so.... First meet is at a nice hotel with room service and nice bathroom having nice shower or extra big tub. Just nice
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Somewhere where we both feel comfortable. A neutral ground would be fine if you felt uncertain coming to my place. It would not feel right to go to your place where you have young children. And it would not sound right if you had asked me to come to your place.
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like you Jeanie, I prefer a hotel until I get to know them better.
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It is just a safe idea for both parties. Thank yoy so much for stopping by and commenting
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I think a mutual location is best
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Without comfort, the sex won't be good. Gotta be comfortable and build that trust as you suggested, indeed. So neutral ground is ideal and yes, a hotel would be neutral. Me, well, the last time I hooked up with somebody from this site.... well we just did it out in the streets; neutral enough for ya?
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I agree with you Lee..THank you for commenting
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Hotel is probably best because you never know what is going to happen.
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It looks like you have this figured out babe. For me...the whole idea of meeting someone I met online frightens me to my core. However, it is the new world. If I can get comfortable with a woman I meet here before I actually meet her in person that's a big plus. I'm so afraid of showing up somewhere and not seeing the person I hope to see. Of course, I want her to be comfortable with me too. Then, I would choose a neutral highly visible location like a casino as the first meeting place. Does that sound good?
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I trust my judgement when I meet people and I do not host. Either they do, or it's a no go. Teens in da haus!
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a mutual agreed upon location is best to meet, met someone once, all she wanted was to go to a hotel and get it on, we chatted, then parted ways, and after chatting a few more time, she still wanted a room and said goodbye
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Before you meet there should be a good conversation about what each person is looking for and pics should be shared to see if the metal attraction is there ..if they won't show you who they are then they are hiding someone ..sex on the first meet depends if you are so in awhile over the person that you just need to please him or let him please you..usually this will decide if you will also see this person again ..
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A mutual location usually makes the most sense until you have developed trust. That being said I wouldn't say no if one of the other two options were required!...lol
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Mutually agreed upon hotel/motel.
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I do not host myself for various reasons. I have met in neutral locations a couple of times which typically is just a lets meet up and set up another date to play if we want. But I have gone to other people's homes first if we have talked for a while and things seem okay.
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I agree meeting in public is best. What if they were the complete opposite than you expected..lol Thank you so much for commenting!!
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if we want sex who cares but not at each others homes however for me before I have thought about sex we are already in a relationship before even our first date because we would have had hours and hours of conversation ....so on that note first sex has to happen away from of course a family unit that would know whats going on!
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I say a mutual location, people live in this oh love at first site or turn on at first world, I say safety at first site
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Most comfortable for me is to talk a good bit before meeting in person, so that some level of trust is built up to carry into the meet, which I strongly prefer be a public place. If it goes well, I will host or we can do a hotel room.
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I am comfortable meeting at their place or mutual location. Most often it is at a mutual location. Cheers!
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I agree fully with you to meet with no expectations at mutual spot. Then when you decide to become intimate an hotel or motel works best. When would you like to meet me LOL
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Men don't usually face the dangers that women encounter when meeting strangers. However, bad things have happened to men when meeting someone new for the first time. I never rush into anything when I meet women and couples online. I get to know them very well....not just sexual information, but also info about their everyday lives. I have a two trusted friends who are very discreet. When I am meeting a woman or couple for the first time, I always tell them who I'm meeting with. Should I become a victim of a nutcase, my friends have the info that can be used to catch the people. I learned this from a couple many years ago. I've found that a lot of men, women and couples do the same thing..... Most couples that I've played with usually host. I do host at times, and I've also used hotel rooms.
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familiar/mutual location would be better option.. leading to composed interaction that culminate in mutually satisfying encounter
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for me, whatever is more comfortable for the girl, but if I can choose I would prefer in my home. besitos
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wherever the lady decides and feels comfortable with.
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When I got divorced, I stayed in the house with my then 18 yo daughter for a year and a bit, before it was sold. She met all my dates, those who came home with me. I met women in hotels when I was travelling to their town. If they were local, mine or theirs was just as good, and cheaper. I can understand if there are young kids in someones house, the limitations. I did not introduce any of my dates to my younger one, and no dating at the times she was staying. I do not have a standard way to meet people. Whatever suits each case.
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As others have commented and my feelings on it; get to know someone and as a rule meet on neutral ground first time. I tend to trust my intuition and some times there are the exceptions that get invited to my place but its rare. Leann
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It depends on how well we got to know each other before deciding to get intimate. Of course, as a man, I have less to worry about.
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Mutual location.
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I prefer to host so I don't have to drag all my meds with me. AB
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You are a wise woman Jeanie! I have not met anyone for anything but lunch, but agree with your thoughts.
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wherever she is comfortable, I prefer a hotel.
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I agree with what you have to say. I have been slated as well. Thank you for commenting!
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The ladies that I have met on her we were at a place to eat and had a good time. No sex with two of them at that time the other lady we had some fun in her car with a lot of hot playing. My gf we met for the first time in a hotel for a night of very hot sex! Butch
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Mutual neutral location is my preference always
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I am a believer in the Old Fashioned Three date Concept... I like the courtship and flirting and anticipation. When I Feel the time is right (Three dates is not a fixed target) I suggest dinner someplace a bit distant from her home. I suggest that since we are dining late - and having a bit of champagne - that We might consider getting a room. I don't believe in Quid Pro Quo sex. Dinner means dinner --- I want someone eager to spend the night --- if that makes sense.
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Neutral place
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I have a great place and it's fun to fantasize about having fun here, but I would not actually propose such an adventure. If I had the opportunity to spend the night with a woman I would select the most luxurious hotel available. I want room service, a private Jacuzzi, and a bed that feels like angel wings.
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Meet at a mutual place
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First, you must actually meet in a safe mutual location with really no expectation of sex at that time. Endless email, pix, calls do not really make the best introductions. Look into each others eyes, listen carefully to each other to see where and what this relationship is to each party. Body language speaks volumes and can really fill in all the unchecked squares - or run the other way. We use age, certain body parts, build, and the most flattering pictures as qualifications for partners. Chemistry, mental ease, sensuality, or just being a real sex magnet can make a big difference. If none of this makes either party hot and at each then parts ways with a handshake and good feelings. No harm, no foul. If this looks like a good deal, then I'm looking for a date in a neutral, private, safe place for both parties in a motel/hotel for at least a few times. Relax and enjoy! After that, well we are both consenting adults.
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i don't have any objection in hosting,i've done it before,but it all depends on the relations your looking for,if it's only sexual encounters,then i'd go to a motel,but if it's for a long term relation,i'd like to host and cook her a home made diner,to sweep her of her feet.
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Thank you joy for commenting. Seems like we have the same approach when it comes to this matter.
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I don't have a preference. I've done all 3 options and am open to whatever makes my partner most comfortable because if they aren't comfortable its not going to be fun for anyone.
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I usually like to host. I feel more comfortable in my surroundings, I feel if your looking for a long term it's more intimate than a motel. If you just want to fuck than a mutual site is more than adequate!
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A mutual agreed location,,neither home. Sex that would depend on the minute; but sex is not expected.
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It is good to have both partners comfortable. I would think it would make the experience better, Thank you for commenting
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Mutual location public. Always still a chance she's a nut. LOL!
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Nearly all of my first intimate encounters have been at a mutual location.
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Absolutely, a nice hotel, with room service and a great big hot tub, with maybe a casino downstairs for in-between times. post 3982980
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A mutual location usually makes the most sense until you have developed trust. That being said I wouldn't say no if one of the other two options were required!...lol
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As others have commented and my feelings on it; get to know someone and as a rule meet on neutral ground first time. I tend to trust my intuition and some times there are the exceptions that get invited to my place but its rare. Leann
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Mutual location is best for a first meet. Then see how it goes and how we get along, if we trust each other, then take things from there.
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For me, I have no choice. I can't host because I live with my folks trying to take care of my mom while she has her cancer. So I have no choice, I have to either have her host or find a neutral location like a hotel. And I don't have a problem with that. But in order to make things easier, I normally prefer to have it at a neutral location in order to make things easier and not have my partner worry. If I had a woman to share it with. Which I don't. Great, now I'm bummed.
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A hotel, while cliche, is so for a reason. It is what works and what is best in the beginning of a new intimate engagement. I hope and I pray for a Hester to win just one more "A", the sadder but wiser girl for me.
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