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Dilffunz 38M

12/13/2018 10:40 am

Yes that wouldn't be a good.


Bud_Bot 47M
211 posts
12/13/2018 10:43 am

No, I wouldn't take it personally


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
12/13/2018 10:46 am

Naw I wouldn't take it personally maybe they just didn't have time. But it just depends on if there had been discussion about meeting and how much interaction there was..Have a great day hun..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


Jay10063 60M
196 posts
12/13/2018 10:47 am

Of course not! There are a million reasons why, I know when I travel for business I rarely have time for anything else.


Yourusaul 53M

12/13/2018 10:52 am

i dont take anything personally i just go with the flow


EndlessCock4u 45M

12/13/2018 10:52 am

no especially like you said your not attracted to them anyway


seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
12/13/2018 10:57 am

This will be interesting to see how the male's answers differ from the females'!
I think I would be a bit put out!, It would be nice to put a proper face to a name even if just for a coffee. Wouldn't matter if I was attracted to him or not, if we had been chatting a while, I would like to be offered the option!


karlanthony5 46M
26 posts
12/13/2018 11:01 am

No, absolutely not


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
12/13/2018 11:06 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Naw I wouldn't take it personally maybe they just didn't have time. But it just depends on if there had been discussion about meeting and how much interaction there was..Have a great day hun..
Like T says it depends on the circumstances.

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astute2r3 68M

12/13/2018 11:17 am

No, I would not.


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
12/13/2018 11:18 am

Yes, I would. If no time or circumstance, I think an explanation would be nice. There really is no obligation, but I think it is a nice thing to do. Happened to me. I was a little insulted. Also, if they feel there will be no hook up they may have no interest in meeting.


dayzeeme 55F
7024 posts
12/13/2018 11:54 am

Only if we had talked about getting together in the past. Otherwise, it makes no real difference to me. Just because I am not attracted to them doesn't mean that they aren't, so would prefer not to have to deal with that in person. If it was a female friend, I would probably be more willing to have met, but still wouldn't be offended if they didn't let me know.


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
12/13/2018 12:11 pm

While I wouldn't take it as a personal insult there would definitely be a part of me that would feel disappointed .... even though I didn't know about it until afterwards.

I would bring it up in conversation later .... just to make sure it wasn't personal, if that makes sense.

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Naughtypursuit 56F  
2766 posts
12/13/2018 12:15 pm

No I wouldnt take it personally. I think there are some people I interact with on here that I am friendly with but I know we have little in common....


VenusRedux2 49F
557 posts
12/13/2018 12:26 pm

Nah. There's just too much of a barrier between the cyber world and the real world. Those worlds must never intermingle! If people don't want to cross that line, I totally understand.

I'm not the same person offline as I am online. I'm sure the other person is too. And, to me at least, it seems like too much of a hassle to "get into character" for just a cup of coffee. I put a lot of effort into this version of myself, I'm not sure I really relish the idea of letting someone peek behind the curtain. I'm here to escape the real world, not invite people into the real-world me.

It would be analogous to having my coworkers see me first thing in the morning before I've done myself up with my hair wrap still on. While it's not something I'm ashamed of, they're not privy to that part of my life, and their presence in it would be an intrusion.

Sure, I would have done the obligatory "you should have told me, we could have gotten a donut or something." But I'd only be saying that knowing I have the safety of two states currently between us.


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
12/13/2018 1:40 pm

Och, aye, ah would take it personally, for about 5secs, then ah'd remember that ah've done the same thing so many times, and then ah'd gi'e masel a boot in the arse for bein an eejit..........


japaneseass 56F  
50231 posts
12/13/2018 1:44 pm

unless the meeting was preplanned, i would not think much of it...i don't know why the person is vising my area, such as his/her business, or visiting the families or what ever...i would assume they have already something to do in this area, so meeting me is not their main concern...we are just an online acquaintance, so it is not biggy for me...


CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
12/13/2018 1:51 pm

Pretty much, yes, I would at least find it strange. I think of those I routinely interact with as friends, so missing a chance to interact in person as an opportunity lost.

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citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
12/13/2018 1:56 pm

To be honest, if it wasn't for fb I wouldn't have found out about a recent school reunion. I would have been gutted if I didn't go...Okay, I did drop a hint


FMAOPLS 70F
27112 posts
12/13/2018 3:02 pm

No, I woudn't take it personally, on the assumption that they had OTHER reasons to visit my area, and that their schedule was "otherwise occupied".

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pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
12/13/2018 3:45 pm

I would think it a bit odd that the person didn't at least tell me they would be in the area, even if it was followed by "but I may not have time to meet" if time was an issue. Otherwise I would think it very strange to not meet if for no other reason than curiosity!
I guess that means yeah...I would take it kinda personal like. lol

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2trythis 60F
5109 posts
12/13/2018 4:11 pm

I wouldn't take it personally. On online friend does not necessarily translate into a real world friend, especially since you said "in a general friendly way". To me that doesn't imply a really close connection.

That being said a few years ago there was a blogger who lived in Chicago and was in Austin for work and we each drove to Waco on the spur of the moment to meet, about 2 hours one way for both of us. We agreed that there was not going to be any sex. We spent several hours at a restaurant thoroughly enjoyed each others company.

Now I thought about you as I drove through OKC earlier this year, does that count?


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
12/13/2018 4:44 pm

If we had developed a close online relationship and we had discussed how nice it would be to see each other in person I would be hurt if he was visiting very near me (no more than 1/2 hour- 45 minutes away) and did not at least tell me. I understand sometimes, especially if he was here on business, or family, it would be difficult to find time. But, if you can only steal a few minutes, just to make that physical connection (not necessarily sex), it’s worth it. Not telling me would definitely change my feelings toward him and our supposed friendship. I would think a lot of what he had said was not really sincere.

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GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
12/13/2018 4:52 pm

Those that are of substance will make the time and effort. Those not, will make an excuse. I have always maintained that the MAJORITY (not all) you come across on the old Internet are NOT true friends at all. At best they are mere acquaintances. So please remember this as I give my two cents.

I tend to agree with Maybe Just that sometimes it's not possible to meet BUT a quick note shows that value of the person. You either value the person or not. I also agree with Positively and Papis that some may just want a quick romp and not want to put any effort into anything. So that's why I agree with them also. I also applaud them for having 'Standards'....

In saying this, then I have to disagree with both Jay and Miss Kissin. While I too, in the past travelled for business both alone and with colleagues/boss. When travelling alone, there is ALWAYS time to grab a quick cuppa or drink and have a chat. No excuses. ESPECIALLY IF you are single.

When travelling with others, I'm sure most would not deny you a night out or quick meet with a 'friend' regardless of your status.

So would I personally be offended. Probably not,(see first paragraph) BUT I know my next contact with them would certainly be a bit 'different' if you know what I mean.....


Maize32 55M  
1391 posts
12/13/2018 5:34 pm

No, I would not take it personally. There are too many unknown factors and it's not fair to either person to read it into the why's.


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
12/13/2018 5:44 pm

I am ok if he cannot make it for reasons. Work, time, whatever. Just nice to mention it. That is what I would do. But as someone here mentioned, an online thing here may be different than in person.


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
12/13/2018 5:45 pm

That has actually happened to me, with a couple different bloggers. Where I read in their blog AFTER their visit here, something like "I was in Minneapolis last weekend". Actually wait, it doesn't totally fit your scenario because I had met both of them - one on a date before he relocated to a different city, the other one at a blogger's bash in Chicago.

At any rate, no I didn't take it personally, Guy #1, I knew he must have many friends in the area who were more important to catch up with, than someone who he had one date with. Guy #2 - eh.

And it would be even less on my radar if it was someone I had never met.


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
12/13/2018 6:12 pm

If we had been "talking" and there was no attraction other than many conversations, being upset and taking a past visit personally is a complete waste of time. Bringing it up after the fact wont solve anything( if there is indeed something to resolve! ) { word change} but I might be curious
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lonlyforlove2 81M
32704 posts
12/13/2018 6:51 pm

There is just to much uncertainty in this type of meeting, like other have said maybe it is just business, family or something that all the time is dedicated to. If I were going to be in an area close and knew I was going to have time, yes I would like to have dinner and or drinks with some of the friends I chat with here, but I would make some arrangements beforehand, not just show up in town.!!! I enjoy new friends and a good meal, and from time to time I do travel.. I would not take is personally if some of them were close and did not let me know, each of us has a life..

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2trythis 60F
5109 posts
12/13/2018 7:51 pm

BiggLala replies on 12/13/2018 8:24 pm:
I think you're talking about run4fun. I recall he lived in Chicago and had posted about going to Austin. You said you agreed that there'd be no sex. Was that due to lack of sexual attraction/interest by one or both of you? (you don't have to answer if you think that question too personal)

It was whome63. We agreed no sex because it was going to be a one time meeting and I am usually not interested in one time flings.

I thought about you. I bet we could have a good conversation.


Yours_4A_knight 59M

12/13/2018 9:07 pm

No

If they are coming to my area they are coming for a purpose, they have a thing they are doing and then I am sure going home.

But my parents and most of my family drive within sight of my house multiple times a year and have never been there, so I am kinda used to that.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


FMAOPLS 70F
27112 posts
12/13/2018 10:46 pm

BiggLala replies on 12/13/2018 7:54 pm:

"Even when you have no attraction/interest in the person?"

Whether I do or do not have any attraction to or interest in the person - I assume they are an adult, and can make their own decisions as to whether we meet or not.

I might be disappointed, but if there has never been any communication as to our possibly meeting - then they are under no obligation to meet, or even let me know they are in the area.

Yes, it's entirely possible that, had we had an opportunity to meet, we could have become "friends", but if I've gotten this far in life without having met them, I'm sure I'll be just fine.

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GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
12/14/2018 5:54 am

Quoting: Okay....just to be clear...YOU are not the one traveling. The person, who you are NOT attracted to, traveled (past tense) to your area and you found out later. You have NO sexual interest in them...so sex isn't even a consideration for you (I'm not sure where being single factors in). As you said...they're merely acquaintances.

Does your answer change?

No, my answer does not change. I understood the circumstances and IF we ( the two people) had some sort of banter back and forth and has evolved into some sort of 'friendship', (not or non sexual) then 'Yes' they should have said they were in town and would like to meet up for a cuppa or drink and put a face to the name.

The 'single' part pertains to a travelling companion (ie. spouse) or to co-workers with loose lips.


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
12/14/2018 6:01 am

Personally, If they were male and they already knew I wasn't sexually attracted to them, I wouldn't expect them to want to meet if they were in my area. If they were female and didn't say they were going to be close, even if there wasn't time to met, then I'd probably take it more personally that the online friendship wasn't as close as I'd thought it was.

Gender matters to me apparently!


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
12/14/2018 10:13 am

I just had another thought on this whole issue. If the interaction that you're talking about is in the form of reading each other's blogs and making comments on them, the other person might not even REALIZE that you live in the city that they're going to be visiting. Location doesn't show up on people's blogs, and a lot of bloggers don't necessarily reference where they live in their posts - so unless you take the trouble to flip over to someone's profile you wouldn't necessarily know...

Just more of a reason not to take personally, I think.


flowerkings2012 60M
4312 posts
12/14/2018 11:12 am

Depends on the reason and distance of travel, though I guess that is always going to be the case if there is a sexual connection rather than this premise of no attraction at all. I just imagine a couple of erstwhile friends on here who I would have liked to meet and I think everyone has an ego of some description, and it would surely take a kicking if one was overlooked in favour of others


Owatalife 67M
1711 posts
12/14/2018 11:49 am

Can't say that I would be really bothered to be honest.


traveljunkie13 56F
11089 posts
12/14/2018 4:42 pm

As someone who has traveled to areas where I know there are bloggers living...NOPE! Wouldn't take it personally.

Here's the thing...I've done both...reached out and not reached out and it's a mixed bag no matter what you do. If you reach out and the other person is real cool with an online interaction but sitting down for drinks makes them freak the fuck out...well why make it uncomfortable for everyone?? And I've not reached out because I knew I was going to be busy and not really have time or not really want to make time to meet someone I've only ever chatted with here on the blogs. Sometimes it's best to just leave things a mystery rather than making things miserable. And this would be where I'd use a shrug emoji!! See how helpful that could be???


falkon2302 45M
154 posts
12/14/2018 4:55 pm

No . I don't take it personally. Like you said , no feelings, no emotions and no stress about it. Even my good friend did it once, because he has new girlfriend. But if you blog about it, so you still care?. . Better have more fan online instead... lol


fun17754 55M
10 posts
12/14/2018 6:05 pm

no i would not, might be i little disappointed


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
12/14/2018 6:39 pm

BiggLala replies on 12/13/2018 9:23 pm:
Haha, yeah okay...that means you'd take it personally.
I take it this is even if you're not sexually interested in the person?

Lol.....Yup, no sexual interest. Actually, I've met a couple of people from this site who were "passing through" (one is married and lives in an adjacent state and the other lives in Wisconsin). We both know I'm not really a 'people person' but I had spent a lot of time either blogging or chatting with both of these people and when they said they would be in the area and would like to meet, I figured, what the heck. Not like it was a huge commitment of time and it was nice to meet in person.

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traveljunkie13 56F
11089 posts
12/15/2018 5:55 am

Answer's still a no. I just don't take it personally. I understand how it is when you're traveling. I also understand that friendships/acquaintances on this site don't always translate well off site.

I've found the friendships between women often flow over into our everyday lives but the friendships between men and women? Not so much.


GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
12/15/2018 11:24 am

    Quoting GhostofH:
    Quoting: Okay....just to be clear...YOU are not the one traveling. The person, who you are NOT attracted to, traveled (past tense) to your area and you found out later. You have NO sexual interest in them...so sex isn't even a consideration for you (I'm not sure where being single factors in). As you said...they're merely acquaintances.

    Does your answer change?

    No, my answer does not change. I understood the circumstances and IF we ( the two people) had some sort of banter back and forth and has evolved into some sort of 'friendship', (not or non sexual) then 'Yes' they should have said they were in town and would like to meet up for a cuppa or drink and put a face to the name.

    The 'single' part pertains to a travelling companion (ie. spouse) or to co-workers with loose lips.
To help clarify your confusion. IF you a single person were travelling and happen to be in my locale, Yes I would not like it if you didn't stop by for a coffee/drink etc. IF we had good rapport, even though it was not a sexual rapport. It's what friends do IF we were at that level. However IF we were merely acquaintances, it would not bother me if you gave me a miss.

However I do understand circumstances when someone is travelling with 'others' that it is sometimes not easy to get away for some personal time. Also you may not wish to have to explain this 'other' person to someone you are travelling with for a multitude of reasons.


dogslife2live01 71M

12/16/2018 1:41 am

a question like this can only be asked by someone that needs counseling to judge how they should react...
but my general rule would be never confuse virtual with real

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
12/16/2018 11:31 am

*sigh*..... One last time. I will try and be more specific in my own particular situation and also perhaps some generalities....

Like I said, if someone was traveling to my locale and they were not someone I was sexually attracted to but we had some sort of rapport, I would like them to meet up for a drink/coffee etc. as I luv to put a face to the name (if we haven't previously). Also see previous comment about friends vs. acquaintances.

To help clarify for you what I meant by 'Single', I am referring to your and mine marital status. But I am also referring to if you are travelling as a single or with a companion or group.

So to answer your question about marital status and what is the problem of meeting socially. Firstly how would we even know each other if I was attached? Where would I have met you? So you can see where this would be awkward on my part explaining you. "Hey Honey, I am going out for a coffee with Lala who I know from Horny.net, but don't worry, there is nothing sexual going on between the two of us. We are just friends...... " So I hope you can see and appreciate just how this would go over.

Same goes for travel companion. Loose lips sink ships and you would never ever want a co-worker to ever have something on you or to hold over you. That being said, in your particular situation, being a footloose and carefree unattached woman, you can get away with things that I an attached gent simply cannot.

And the last part to address your 'IF's'..... While I appreciate that ever circumstance and relationship can be different. For example if we just met/interacted for the first time, I would be less remiss of you not contacting me when in town vs. say we had been chatting for a year or so. Time and space.

I hope this makes it a little clearer for you.... *hugs*


CynicusMaximus 52M
1844 posts
12/16/2018 6:42 pm

I don't think i would be insulted, but if it wasn't discussed at all as a possible option, there may not have been any available time.

Most of all, i wouldn't take it personal though.


GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
12/16/2018 8:28 pm

If I travelled somewhere and I knew somebody locally, I'd usually let them know I was in town and if they'd like to meet up I was available. This applies to friends and 'old' friends (ie. ex girlfriends etc.) or even relatives.

And now that I no longer travel for business, my trips alone are less frequent so if I was in your area, I'd certainly give you the heads up a few days in advance and see if you had some time to meet in person.


RomanticRubber69 55M
33 posts
12/16/2018 9:41 pm

No, because i wouldn't know what his reasons were. Strictly business trip, maybe meeting someone with a romantic interest, maybe a family thing. But no, i wouldn't be offended..


wildnwanton 61F
19428 posts
12/17/2018 4:16 am

Online friends only? Nahh, life is just too short.

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maltig 50M/59F
70 posts
12/17/2018 12:36 pm

Communication is the key , didn't even give you a chance to say come over or lets meet up ..... I think that's it quite rude .. Should have at least said ,Hey im over your way but haven't got any time to drop in ......


MyContinuingSaga 40M
56 posts
12/17/2018 2:08 pm

Hmmmm.....this is always an interesting one. My answer would be: it completely depends on a pretty long list of factors.

Regardless of sexual attraction or not on either party's side, under these circumstances I would not be hurt or offended:

1) there has never been any discussion about meeting

2) we are not really good, close friends (either online or offline), but, rather, just casual chatters who generally interact in a friendly way

(from the original post and by reading your responses to others this sounds like you are thinking along these lines as well)

Under those two conditions I would be fine. Now, if circumstances were different, I could be anything from hurt to just mildly disappointed, but, again, that would be under different circumstances and conditions of the situation.

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luvgluv19 75M

12/18/2018 6:08 am

Nope, no problem unless I had previously known them intimately


godogs91 56M
62 posts
12/19/2018 8:34 pm

lots of reasons why. wouldn't be a biggie especially if no interest at all. different story if you'd been trying to see each other.


Hotreadynowanc 47M

12/20/2018 1:17 am

Why? Why would I care if someone who has nothing better to do but come to my wonderful city, didn’t have the guts to let me know there in town? Her loss not mine!

On the flip side my ego would be automatically hurt but when you realize that nothing would of happen anyway, I might plan a trip to her city and post it all over my page⚡️😉⚡️

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oralhelper4u989 54M
41 posts
12/20/2018 4:59 am

No. Life is too short to worry about that


SeaGirlFL 60F
9220 posts
12/20/2018 10:53 pm

Hm. I guess that might be dependent upon whether they told me or someone else did.

If they told me they'd been in the area, I'd guess that they had a reason for not reaching out...and while I would have been disappointed that we couldn't meet for a coffee or drink or something, I wouldn't have taken it personally.

If someone else shared that info with me, I'd probably be a little hurt that they didn't mention it.

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TrucknLuvn 59M/41F  
1622 posts
12/21/2018 12:36 am

Joey and I would not take it personally at all. Traveling implies that the person is either in the area on business or to visit family and/or friends. Meeting up with a friendly online acquaintance is hardly a priority in that type of scenario. It wouldn't offend me or have any effect on the friendship I have with that person.

That being said, I would mention something along the lines of, "The next time you're in my neck of the woods, we should try to meet up over coffee or a beer, if you have the time."

Joey and I have found ourselves on the other side of this scenario, just due to the nature of our job. We roll through and spend the night in so many different cities, we can't help but think that it would be nice to make a few new friends here and there, just to have people we can hang out with from time to time. The hard part about approaching somebody on a "friendship only, we just want to say hi" type of meet, is making sure that we don't hurt anyone's feelings, if they were to expect more than friendship.

The other side of that coin is even more tricky for us, in a way. Let's say that we have been getting along swimmingly with a female blogger and we find out that we are going to end up spending the entire weekend in her city. We want to reach out in a way that makes it perfectly clear that we would be meeting up as friends and friends alone. No hidden agendas, no bullshit. With the countless numbers of assholes and bullshitters in this site that would say or do anything just to meet up with somebody, how can we prove that we are, indeed, genuine with our intent. How can we prove our honesty when zo many others have been dishonest in the past? We have tried to reach out to a few friends and/or blog buddies on here, but have yet to meet anyone because they are being cautious.

I am sure that one day, we will start to meet a few of the awesome people here in Blogland.

By the way...

For the record, Joey and I did think of you when we drove through OKC on our way to Cali last week. Unfortunately, we did not have very much time to spare on that particular run. Plus, we kind of figured you would say, "No thank you, Honey Balls!"

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Plumpbottom68 56M
4 posts
12/22/2018 10:54 am

No, jut be surprised. It would als depend if they came Tony house or contacted me to say they were in town. I’d go have a drink but explain we are just friends


Mosqueda69s 29M
17 posts
12/22/2018 2:11 pm

I would not have taken it personally. But I would ask why I was not considered.


dogslife2live01 71M

12/23/2018 7:47 pm

i guess i did not respond the way you wanted me too... but calling me a troll still does not change my answer
but if you insist on something simpler... it is possible that he has no attraction to you as well and the internet chats are just to kill time. so no the meet is not necessary and should not be expected

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


Egarc1549 25M

12/24/2018 9:58 am

No reason to take it personal


wickedeasy 74F
32404 posts
12/25/2018 9:51 am

nope

but then i'm a bit of a hermit and there are very few people I actually want to mee.

you, you I want to meet

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


dogslife2live01 71M

12/26/2018 6:45 am

(no, this isn't about anyone in particular) this was how you ended your question... therefore in my mind it was not about your friend,someone you know, nor any real person
my response of "never mix virtual with reality" simply means although you may be best of friends or lovers online is rarely the same in real life... had you read read my reply you would have noticed that it was written not only gender neutral but was not pointed at any one person.
as to you blocking me that is your choice and privilege... but do keep in mind
whichever you choose, it will not change the color of my socks
bonne chance

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


MRHAPPY2000 47M
41 posts
12/26/2018 8:53 am

It would depend on how long they were in town and if I already had plans. If I had plans then no it would not bother me.


dogslife2live01 71M

12/26/2018 10:17 am

but it is a truth... his/her passing through without shouting out for a possible bite or even a coffee was no big deal it would just have passed unwritten.
yet someone took the trouble to put words to screen... not that action alone means that it was on someone's mind.
just the way you phrased it... and i believe it was just venting more than wanting an response... but me being me had to answer
so in the end anyone that asks an opinion usually lacks confidence in how to react to a situation
but in the end... how much weight does my opinion carry
happy holy days

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


Medvjed2m 46M

12/26/2018 12:09 pm

Why would I expect anything. If you are onla friends online, why would you have to meer in RL? Don't take it personally, this is just a game. Friendly game. Not obligation.


Banana_Canyon 45F

12/27/2018 7:38 am

Generally speaking, yes, I think I'd feel a bit slighted to know that not a word was said, if they were in my area. This may merely be a hypothetical scenario you describe, but I have a tendency to critically think or over-think a scenario. So, in other words, what are the unknown variables? What is the frequency of his / her travels to your area? Is this a once in a lifetime sort of thing from someone visiting the states from Japan, or is this person regularly in your immediate area on business trips, vacations, etc... on a fairly regular basis a handful of times annually? If this was a once and done deal that I got passed by on, then I'd personally take it harder than if it was someone that was in the area more frequently. Either way, I'd be a bit annoyed. It's the thought that counts! Even if the person informed you, but made it clear that they'd have no time to meet due to a a very short stay or whatever the reason was for their stay that made them super busy and unable to arrange a meet.


Summorefun4me 46M
7 posts
12/27/2018 10:37 am

Probably wouldn't take it personally.


after2night 51M
153 posts
12/28/2018 10:43 am

I wouldn't, because If I knew them (In A General Friendly Way) then I would figure that whatever they came to town for was not about me. Also I have learned that people do things their way, not mine. If in the future I would like the person to contact me when they come to town, then I would let them know afterwards. If they say no then cool, we are friends (In A General Friendly Way) and I would appreciate their honesty.


alwayshard7300 50M

12/29/2018 3:44 pm

No big deal. On this site theyre probably not who they say they are anyways


Falkenstein1 56M
17 posts
12/30/2018 12:37 am

Nope. Couldn’t have given a flying fuck if someone did that. As simple as that.


funnyirishman 49M
18 posts
12/30/2018 10:31 am

There could me numerous reasons why they did not get in contact with you, and heck it is their loss and I am sure you would be amazing!!!!


well_Endowed31 39M

12/31/2018 3:23 am

Yes it shows they care or at least are thinking about you


cometogether694u 50M

12/31/2018 7:01 am

well if you aren't interested in them then u shouldn't care ! he probably senses that you wouldn't hang out if he asked you . just my opinion. don't swet the snall stuff in life . happy new year !


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/1/2019 4:47 am

I would not. We all are very busy. Tough sometimes to squeeze in a workout. We do have to make time for those events we want to attend.


redhotfun4you2 61F  
1596 posts
1/1/2019 9:20 am

I don't think I would take it personally. Then again it has not happened to me so could not be certain how I would feel. I do think it would also depend on how good of friends we are.


Ventura4fun1985 38M

1/1/2019 7:05 pm

Nope.


Cook0326 35M
16 posts
1/1/2019 11:43 pm

I would not take it personally at all


Slut4U1993 30F

1/1/2019 11:51 pm

I guess it depends on whether you had any interest in them. By the sounds of it you didn't. SO no I wouldn't take it personally. Maybe they figured it was a waste of time to get together as nothing could come of it or they were just to busy. Maybe they had business in your town or visiting friends. There are lots of reasons he may have had for not contacting you. why don't you ask him if it bothers you.


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