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MOMMY?? WTF.......  

GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1810 posts
10/3/2018 9:03 am
MOMMY?? WTF.......

Below is an email I received this morning…..clearly he didn’t read my profile (he is a gold member) or he would have known I don’t appreciate dick pics being sent unsolicited and will just delete his email….usually with no reply (unless I’m in one of “those” moods…...lol).!

Ya know....I get that this is a sex site- after all the "slogan" for A*F*F is:

Hookup,Find Sex or Meet Someone Hot Now

But can that not be done in an adult, decent,and respectful way? Can the sexy chat or "dirty" chat not be saved until it is determined between the parties that- that is what each are looking for or desire?

I will say that most of the men that contact me behave in a more gentlemanly manor. They say “hello”...ask how I am doing, and then go into whatever they would like to say to try and convince me to meet them etc.

It is the clueless men that make me shake my head and wonder...WTF are they thinking?! Do they really think that a woman is gonna appreciate that approach? Maybe some will - we all have things that float that proverbial boat and turn us on I suppose.

This idiot called me mommy! Mommy? Yes I am a mommy to four sons and two daughters.....but I ain't your mommy dufus brain, and in no universe would I want you to call me that!! I honestly don’t want any man to call me mommy. I imagine in a relationship where the woman is the dominant….it could be possible for that nickname to be wanted or okay…..but for me….NAH…...lol

The rest of the email was not much to my liking either - especially considering it was a first contact for Pete's sake......

So here’s just a reminder for those men that haven’t gotten a clue yet on how to approach a woman,although they probably don’t read the blogs either when ya think about it….here ya go!

A shining example how NOT to do it…..lol

Ladies….would you want or like this approach? Would you like a man to use a term of endearment such as mommy...sweetheart...babydoll etc. when emailing you (especially first contact)?

Gentlemen….feel free to let me know your thoughts on this guy and his approach! Let me know what yours is! Maybe you can educate those that are clueless…..




Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 9:06 am

Most of you gentlemen are decent guys and have some understanding of how to approach a woman....

But there are some that this will apply to.....take a look and if it does....FIX IT!!


Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


Story435 76M
3791 posts
10/3/2018 9:08 am

Some men don't get it or they don't care! I always read profiles I think all should read profiles before they try to contact anyone. And they should always respect what they see. I know a lot of very young ladies don't read mine at all. It clearly states no ladies under 50.
Butch


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
10/3/2018 9:11 am

OMG I got a couple of those and did delete and block. Then I send them each a private email and let it rip!!! I dont even dare guess his age cause I do not think age has anything to do with manners and respect, But let's hope the Rosetta Stone was written in braille- at least we would know they fingered they way through it if they cannot read LOL

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sphxdiver 74M
21063 posts
10/3/2018 9:15 am

That sort of thing makes a lot of us men on here look bad.

There's no way I'd write such a thing on the first e-mail.

Hope you blocked him !!


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 9:34 am

    Quoting Story435:
    Some men don't get it or they don't care! I always read profiles I think all should read profiles before they try to contact anyone. And they should always respect what they see. I know a lot of very young ladies don't read mine at all. It clearly states no ladies under 50.
    Butch
You are correct Butch...some men just don't get it and they most likely never will.
But then they will complain that the women on here are just playing games, or some other nonsense to make themselves feel better.

I can understand when someone doesn't have a gold membership and can't read a profile...but in my opinion when they can - they should. If clearly there is no common ground in wants...needs...desires- then why bother?

Thanks for your comments!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 9:38 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    OMG I got a couple of those and did delete and block. Then I send them each a private email and let it rip!!! I dont even dare guess his age cause I do not think age has anything to do with manners and respect, But let's hope the Rosetta Stone was written in braille- at least we would know they fingered they way through it if they cannot read LOL
I think most women on here do get this type of email from time to time. I did delete his, but didn't block him as of yet.

Should he be stupid enough to send me another one then...bye bye....lol

This guy was 39 years old, so old enough to know better, but you are absolutely right...age should have nothing to do with manners and respect!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 9:41 am

    Quoting sphxdiver:
    That sort of thing makes a lot of us men on here look bad.

    There's no way I'd write such a thing on the first e-mail.

    Hope you blocked him !!
Well I don't automatically assume all men are like this one - so no worries!

It's good to hear you have more common sense,manners and respect not to send something like this guy did!

I deleted his email and will block him if he's silly enough to try again....

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 9:46 am

    Quoting  :

Not a bad idea Lala...to show there are thoughtful and decent men on here as well as the "others"..

I will consider you suggestion!

My profile is lengthy and pretty much spells out what I'm about....so yeah, I think had he read it..he should have thought twice in his approach.

Knucklehead for sure.....lol

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
10/3/2018 9:55 am

Where do they get this crap? Porn sites? Older women will fall for the fantasy of their son? Some sickos out there. What am I missing?
Just like that daddy dom shit. Ewww


JimmyB7474 59M

10/3/2018 10:19 am

Yeah, I agree that stuff is for the birds. (I cleaned up what I really meant to say A LOT). There are certain "taboos" I just will not allow. Incest is one of the biggest. Come on guys, There are WAY too many people in the world to go shopping in your own gene pool. positively4you is right... Ewwww! Jimmy B.

My blog JimmyB7474 is called Into The Woods (erotica) entertaining stories about a guy named Jimmy. Enjoy.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/3/2018 10:46 am

The clowns with dick pics and crude approaches make thing a bit easier for me. I've been told those guys eliminate themselves out very quickly and in a small community that works out well for me.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


dayzeeme 55F
7024 posts
10/3/2018 11:11 am

that message would make me want to puke! WTf indeed!!


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 11:32 am

    Quoting  :

I know right.....no idea what's wrong with me.....lol

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 11:35 am

    Quoting  :

Hmmmm......

Well honestly..I don't wanna hear that in any email -first...second...third etc. !

Perhaps with someone I have been communicating with, and considering as a playmate seriously, or already involved with. Otherwise they can keep it to themselves.

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 11:39 am

    Quoting  :

It's almost a given that most women on here have received emails similar to the one I got today. Many of them do get pissy or nasty if you tell them their emails were unappreciated.

Guess it hurts their fragile ego....

They don't realize how important a first impression can be....

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 11:44 am

    Quoting positively4you:
    Where do they get this crap? Porn sites? Older women will fall for the fantasy of their son? Some sickos out there. What am I missing?
    Just like that daddy dom shit. Ewww
I'd like to know the same thing.....lol

Not sure why they think that would be a good thing to send to any woman, let alone a more mature one.....lol

I'm personally not into being with younger guys and I sure don't want one calling me mommy!

Honestly I'm not into the dominant/submissive thing.....just enjoyable sex, with mutual satisfaction. Where nothing is predetermined, and it just goes with the flow of the encounter.

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 11:49 am

    Quoting JimmyB7474:
    Yeah, I agree that stuff is for the birds. (I cleaned up what I really meant to say A LOT). There are certain "taboos" I just will not allow. Incest is one of the biggest. Come on guys, There are WAY too many people in the world to go shopping in your own gene pool. positively4you is right... Ewwww! Jimmy B.
Yep....it's not going to get a guy anywhere with emails like that!

Incest is just sick..... I once had a young guy tell me that his mother watched him jerk off. He actually thought that was something he should tell me!

YUCK....YUCK...YUCK...and EWWWW for sure!

I told him that was f*cked up and got off the IM immediately!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


qvillebiman 66M  
373 posts
10/3/2018 11:50 am

I just hope that he is 18 years old. Yes I have used cheesy pick up lines in my life but. This is not a dive bar or a frat party. We spend a lot of time on our profiles because I don't want a lot of unsolicited messages. That being said they are there every day WTF. Why do the same asshats keep trying to hookup?


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 12:17 pm

    Quoting  :

Truthfully I ignore the BS most of the time too. I just ignore, don't respond to them, just delete the email.

Nine times out of ten blocking isn't necessary because they don't send a second email.

I too applaud the men who are courteous and respectful. They are absolutely on here. Kudos to them!!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 12:30 pm

    Quoting  :

Thanks for the reply....long, but good info!

His profile says he is from Michigan, and he is 39 years old. Looks to be American, so perhaps mommy issues apply....lol

I do know some cultures refer or call women - mommy and males poppy....I'm not thinking that this was the case for this guy though.

I just wasn't in the mood to "school" him today on common sense and how to approach a woman. It quite possibly could have fallen on deaf ears anyway or gotten me verbally abused...which happens sometimes too!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 12:33 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    The clowns with dick pics and crude approaches make thing a bit easier for me. I've been told those guys eliminate themselves out very quickly and in a small community that works out well for me.
They absolutely eliminate themselves out of any decent woman replying to them favorably.

I have seen your responses on other blogs and read your blog at times, so I know you are one of the "good guys"!!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 12:36 pm

    Quoting dayzeeme:
    that message would make me want to puke! WTf indeed!!
Yeah....sure wasn't my cup of tea, and then the dick pic was just too much to boot!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 12:42 pm

    Quoting qvillebiman:
    I just hope that he is 18 years old. Yes I have used cheesy pick up lines in my life but. This is not a dive bar or a frat party. We spend a lot of time on our profiles because I don't want a lot of unsolicited messages. That being said they are there every day WTF. Why do the same asshats keep trying to hookup?
No....this guy was 39 tears old. Definitely old enough to have known better!

It's a sex site, but that doesn't mean it's a free for all, and gives people the right to think that all decency goes out the "door".

I did spend time on my profile and seem to get mostly good feedback. I did that for a reason...to let people know who I am, what I eventually would hope to find. And what I'm open to in a sexual way.

I agree...there are things on here that every day can sometimes make me shake my head and wonder WTF. Such is life on a sex site I suppose....loll

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


CarriedBack 56M  
144 posts
10/3/2018 2:05 pm

Ewwww! amp;


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/3/2018 5:50 pm

Yup...that sums it up in one word.....lol

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/6/2018 6:47 am

Hmmm... Well... Looks like everyone has advice for you. I got an email once - my bank wanted to know if I was planing on covering my line of credit any time soon. F.. ckers! My bank is a piece of shit. It's National Noodle Day today... Enjoy!


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 posts
10/21/2018 10:38 am

    Quoting  :

I'm sure most of us women on here do. He hasn't tried again, so he remains unblocked - maybe he read the blog post......lol

I agree....the only one that would be calling me any "pet" names would be a lover.

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


astute2r3 68M

10/24/2018 3:34 pm

Well GreenEyedLady, I would have to say "I Concur" with what you have shared. It is what it is and not much if anything, can change the fact! Additionally, Thanks for your reply to me and note about Boys and Their Toys Too! I can imagine that any Boy (man) whom had the opportunity to articulate with you face to face, would have had a rare opportunity to see more of you mentally as well as physically, (smiling here and learn more about you from all, that you spoke. A gentlemen you wish and I wish for "YOU" all that you wish! From me, "XO" for no other reason than, I just want to!


Daddylong310 50M
6 posts
10/28/2018 8:15 am

That was to disrespectful I can't believe he did that un


MixedGemini88 35M
10 posts
10/28/2018 8:53 pm

block!


silk_petal_rose 60F  
2363 posts
10/29/2018 9:36 pm

I received a first e-mail saying.............your so beautiful you must charge alot...........

silky...


aclik2 60M
43 posts
10/30/2018 1:00 am

it truthfully takes all kinds ,


ocmvguy51 56M

10/31/2018 3:30 pm

Best advice here: Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


proteus_2a 58M
7979 posts
11/5/2018 1:32 am

Some weird cookies out here, my lady ,
but to his defense, give him some slack
- he was texting one handed !

Cheers - P


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