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Perception
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Perception It's all in the point of view.... I often look at myself in the mirror and feel disgusted. Today was no exception... I curled my hair for a change and realized just how much grey hair I'm starting to accumulate. Part of me wanted to cry when I noticed I now have a few regulars in my bangs.... Just one more thing to add to the list of my flaws. Frizzy hair, oily skin, dark circles under my eyes, can't tan, overweight..... I stand before the mirror and pick myself apart every single day. Which means I start my day, every day, feeling unworthy and defeated. Here's the thing, though.... When I emerged from the bathroom after brushing my teeth my said to me "You're hair looks pretty, mom." And, she genuinely meant it. When I got to work, every coworker I passed smiled and said Hi to me. One of them told me she'd made cookies and had put one on my desk for me so I would get one before they were gone. She was so excited to share a cookie with me. When I went to leave for the day, my ex-husband and were waiting outside my office. He decided to drop her off today so I wouldn't have to drive out of my way to go get her. He does this a couple of days a week.... He drives out of his way to drop her off so I don't have to. Which brings me to my point. It's all a matter of perception. If only I could see myself the way everyone else does. If only I could be as kind to myself as I am to everyone else. If only... |
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3/7/2020 5:03 am |
Be happy with your self and your body.
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We all have flaws it's what makes us unique as individuals.
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Thank you all for the comments. I was not having the best day yesterday.... but I did read each comment and put a lot of thought into all of them. The perception is mine, and mine alone to change. Starting today, I've actually made some positive changes going forward. I'm sure I'll be blogging about some of it in days to come..... as some of it will require habits to be altered. And we know how fun that kind of change is.
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I know what you mean.... I am overweight, not bad, but still. I consider myself unattractive however I have attracted a very few women. No one says my hair looks good.... cause I have very little! LOL. Anyway, I get up every day & be all I can be! LOL That was very nice of your daughter and co-worker. Glad your day turned out better than you thought 
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Thank you all for the comments. I was not having the best day yesterday.... but I did read each comment and put a lot of thought into all of them. The perception is mine, and mine alone to change. Starting today, I've actually made some positive changes going forward. I'm sure I'll be blogging about some of it in days to come..... as some of it will require habits to be altered. And we know how fun that kind of change is.
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We are all often our most critical critics !! We need to do exactly like you say adjust our perception of ourselves maybe believe that past decisions were the "right " thing to do at the time ! and get ready to hopefully age gracefully because its gonna happen !! Hope you have a great day !! xoxo
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I echo pagancountrygirls comment! beauty begins on the inside and works its way outward. I only have hair on my chin....it's color is called salt and pepper! Many say it makes me look distinguished!
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Mm very interesting
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1/28/2020 9:23 pm |
Stop beating yourself up. I'm sure you look absolutely beautiful. It certainly doesn't sound like you starting the day on a low too x
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hmm I always say that we make our own reality great athletes talk about the vision of doing their craft seeing is believing you know what amazes me that somehow we all got here at this same point in time Normal sperm densities range from 15 million to greater than 200 million sperm per milliliter of semen. what this says is that it took 14,999,999 losers to create you. You are the result of the fastest swimmer, and the right egg to me, that is pretty amazing when people disagree with me, I remind them that they are focusing on the wrong item or point of view look on the bright side Never Shout Never - "On the Brightside" I met a man of two feet tall This man was quite ambitious In a world that is so vicious To us all I said hi As he replied He said listen to these words that I have lived by my whole life You're only as tall As your heart will let you be And you're only as small As the world will make you seem And when the going gets rough And you feel like you may fall Just look on the bright side You're roughly six feet tall I met a man of twelve feet tall He towered like a giant In a world that was defiant Of his height I said hi As he replied He said listen to these words That I have dreaded my whole life You're only as tall As your heart will let you be And you're only as small As the world will make you seem And when the going gets rough And you feel like you may fall Just look on the bright side You're roughly six feet tall To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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I often feel the same as you do. It is hard not to be hard on ourselves. Let's hope 2020 is the year we are kinder to ourselves.
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So you're doing nothing to fix anything you can fix. You have a weight problem and your coworker wants to give you a cookie. You'd be better off not eating that cookie. You have financial ability to join a gym, go join a gym. You have access to hair dye, go buy some. you have circles under the eyes? Stop drinking so much and get more rest. Tanning is not good for light pigment skin anyway....
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1/28/2020 5:40 pm |
I personally like gray in a woman's hair.
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1/28/2020 5:12 pm |
Nice ☺
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I understand. I feel the same way about myself. Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth. If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.
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Your mirror is showing you what's on the outside while everyone else sees all of you...the outside AND the inside. I think that's a much better reflection of who you are.  Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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interesting
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That's one of life's most difficult lessons … learning to view our self more kindly. I started with calling my gray -nope! make that my silver hair 'hair bling' Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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THAT... sounded like a great day! 👍 🌹😊 get rid of the mirror... ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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