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Women Have Dildos and Vibrators... They Don't Need Men... Or Do They?... ๐Ÿค”  

Paulxx001 66M
8702 posts
4/11/2019 2:00 am

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Women Have Dildos and Vibrators... They Don't Need Men... Or Do They?... ๐Ÿค”

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Part of my, 'Self Help Series', on sexuality... ๐Ÿ˜

Women have been using artificial penises (for self pleasuring), since they first discovered, they each had a clitoris and a vagina. However, the oldest 'hard' evidence, was uncovered in 2005. German scientists got wet, when they unearthed a twenty-eight thousand (28,000) year old, eight inch (20 cm) phallus, of polished siltstone.

The stone dildo was discovered, in Hohle Fels Cave near Ulm, Swabia
, by an Early Prehistory team from the University of Tรผbingen.
Scientists were impressed with how smooth it was, remarking; "... it must have taken hours and hours to polish it, to such a fine level." I guess... if it's going in there , it would have to be smooth - right?

With the invention of the battery, came the creation of the vibrator and the ultimate evolution - of the the dildo. How prevalent is the use, o.f this toy today? In 2009, in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, Debra Herbenick (and her g.roup), published the findings of a survey from 2,056 women, between the ages of 18 to 60. Here are some of the results, of their study.

(1) 52.5% of the women admitted, to having used a vibrator either ; masturbating, during intercourse, and with a partner, as part of foreplay.

(2) Vibrators were used more frequently, for clitoral stimulation: 83.8% of users.

(3) Only 64% of women, also inserted them.

(4) Over 98% of women never experienced any negative side effects. Numbness, pain, irritation, inflammation, tears or cuts were rarely reported. Therefore, vibrators are very safe!

Here's my question to this whole thing. Do Vibrators improve sexual enjoyment and functioning for women? Or.... do women who already have, better sexual functioning, incorporate those vibrating toys, into their sexual repertoire; as a means of experimenting, and enhancing their experience?

I used to get a c.all, from a woman: she only phoned, when her batteries were dead. ๐Ÿ˜ฑ She just wanted, to use my penis... and fuck me! I was fine with that... I guess. ๐Ÿ˜ถ


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So
Would you be able to 'do without', your favorite vibrator, dildo or toy?
Have you ever enjoyed using a vibrator or dildo with your partner?
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Instructions on how to use a dildo are included in the diagram, below. ..
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Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 2:01 am

Yep... I've used dildos and vibrators with my lover and it's hot! ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ
What a thrill to push that little thing in there and watch it disappear. Then watch as her eyes close and she shivers for me.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 2:02 am

I've also had those Vibrators used (externally), on me. And I must admit, that it does enhance the quality of the sex. If I don't have a vibrator... well... I wouldn't miss it. But it's nice! ๐Ÿ˜Š


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
4/11/2019 3:14 am

Vibrators are by far the most popular sex toy. According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, 25 percent of women have difficulty having orgasms, or can't have them. Many perfectly normal women cannot have orgasms without the intense stimulation vibrators provide. They need direct clitoral stimulation from fingers, a tongue, a vibrator, or anything else.
My 'little pink friend' (a Shibaro Halo) is fun to share with a partner....showing how I like to use it, turning over the control of it to him or using it on him.


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
4/11/2019 3:26 am

Men have their hands and can also use a fleshlight, so they don't need a woman.
Or do they?

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 3:52 am

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    Men have their hands and can also use a fleshlight, so they don't need a woman.
    Or do they?
Interesting point you bring up. Hmmm... ๐Ÿค”
Well... I've never used a 'flesh light' so I don't know what it feels like. Do you have any friends who have experienced it? I'd like to know their opinion. Not that I would try it. But I've been curious... lol ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜
Yeah... hands are ok. I guess if I use my left.... it'll feel like someone else is there. lol ๐Ÿ˜Š But it's still not the same. ๐Ÿ˜ข
Bottom line is that men are disadvantaged when it comes to emulating sex with a woman - in my opinion. Plus.... we're really, really, really shallow and needy. So.. no! We need women! โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜
I may be wrong about my thoughts about Vibrators and toys and how they make a woman feel. You're a lady ... what do you think? Is the pleasure you get, similar to, or better than... sex with a man? Or at the very least... is it as much fun? ๐Ÿค—
Thanks for sharing your pov. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ‘
The idea you brought up, can be a topic I explore on another blog. Thank you for the idea! ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ƒ


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 4:05 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Vibrators are by far the most popular sex toy. According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, 25 percent of women have difficulty having orgasms, or can't have them. Many perfectly normal women cannot have orgasms without the intense stimulation vibrators provide. They need direct clitoral stimulation from fingers, a tongue, a vibrator, or anything else.
    My 'little pink friend' (a Shibaro Halo) is fun to share with a partner....showing how I like to use it, turning over the control of it to him or using it on him.
25% ? Wow... That's high. I didn't realize that number would be so elevated. No wonder you ladies like them so much. ๐Ÿ˜ฑ
You've fricken named your little toy _"pinky "? Omg... you are sooooo funny. ๐Ÿ˜ Yep... I inferred... lol
I am not familiar with the toy you use. You'd have to show me what to do. R u patient with beginners?
Thanks for sharing your pov. Interesting stats! ๐Ÿค”
25% is a lot! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ


Naughtypursuit 56F  
2766 posts
4/11/2019 4:30 am

I could not do without my toys. I have a collection just to be sure I never am without. Yes toys are involved in partner play all the time. In fact I keep packages of vibrating rings in my stockpile.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 4:41 am

    Quoting Naughtypursuit:
    I could not do without my toys. I have a collection just to be sure I never am without. Yes toys are involved in partner play all the time. In fact I keep packages of vibrating rings in my stockpile.
Really? Wow! Kool.... ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ‘
Have you named any of them? You women are soooo funny... I swear... and you laugh at us men.. lol ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜
Ya know... if you were ever to do a blog post, with a picture of all your little toys on display.. I would read it with great interest. Especially if you included a description of the 'effect' of each unique play item! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ˜˜
Yep... Have you ever thought about that, or is it just too personal? ๐Ÿ˜ถ
Vibrating rings? I'm an amateur here. Educate me. I'm too lazy to google it... lol


whoisagentj 54M
6060 posts
4/11/2019 6:14 am

I sometimes wonder if women do need men now.

As for using vibrators and dildos on women, I've done that and it's awesome to do. However, I'd rather be the one doing the actual fucking.

And yeah, I myself have used a fleshlight. They're ok, but it's just not the same as the warmth of a woman, not even close.

Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...


Agent


mc_justmc 63M

4/11/2019 6:37 am

I bet that stone was "polished" by years of "erosion".


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 6:43 am

    Quoting whoisagentj:
    I sometimes wonder if women do need men now.

    As for using vibrators and dildos on women, I've done that and it's awesome to do. However, I'd rather be the one doing the actual fucking.

    And yeah, I myself have used a fleshlight. They're ok, but it's just not the same as the warmth of a woman, not even close.
Hey... Mr. Agent! Welcome... ๐Ÿ˜Š
Yep... I agree with you on those points. It is hot to help a woman with those devices and toys. But you're right... nothing beats the real thing, right? lol I might have to give that flesh light thing a try. Going into those sex shops is a lot of fun!
So... shall I serve you a pineapple vodka slushie or ya wanna start slow, with a coffee? โ˜•๐Ÿ
Stay as long as you want. Some of my other stuff here, is funnier! Have a great day. Drop by, any time. ๐Ÿ‘


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 6:52 am

    Quoting  :

Oooooo.... You sound like a seasoned pro... lol ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ฑ
Ya have some favorites? You know me. I'm always willing to learn about new stuff. Especially stuff that I know almost nothing about. ๐Ÿ˜˜ Yep... I've seen you at work.... Hot ๐Ÿ”ฅand entertaining.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 7:04 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I bet that stone was "polished" by years of "erosion".
Well... supposedly... the scientists claim, that the smoothness was created through 'man made', means. Although... 28,000 years ago, who knows what the inside of a 'woman bit' resembled. Perhaps, it's composition was courser, (than its present day, velvety version), thus leading to the erosion, you refer to.
Good point! Yep... ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿค” hmmm scary point.... ๐Ÿ˜ฑ
Or through exsessive use... I'd love to have been there, when that first man (who polished it) ... gave it to that first woman. What a vision. lol


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 7:08 am

    Quoting  :

Omg.. That is so funny. Did all of us young men buy those for their girlfriends? ๐Ÿ˜˜ I thought that I was the only guy, who came up with THAT idea. That's funny. ๐Ÿ˜‚
I trust that you were instructed on how to use it?
Q? Do you still have it? ๐Ÿ˜Š


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 8:52 am

    Quoting  :

Wow. That's a classic story. England... and all. Very romantic... โค๏ธ
I was in my twenties.. maybe 22 and I was with my new girlfriend at our first Motel rendezvous. I had the pizza and coke in hand. Then I pulled out the gift wrapped package. ๐ŸŽ I had never used or seen one (live), before. And she had never had one either. It was quite the experience, to explore that device. Quite the thrill, indeed.
I wish it were possible to relive those first, moments, from time to time. The "First time", for anything, was always a thrill.
That Air Force experience in London... does sound intriguing. Or am I just a hopeless romantic? ๐Ÿ˜
Thanks for sharing that story! ๐Ÿ‘


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
4/11/2019 10:36 am

My first was given to me by a man. He arrived with a vibrator, handcuffs and tequila. I said well, honey, most men bring flowers, but I do like your style. I used that vibrator until it died many yrs later. He is one of my good memories.๐Ÿฆ‹


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
4/11/2019 10:36 am

You know I do have a vibrator, but to be honest I prefer REAL..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 10:44 am

    Quoting positively4you:
    My first was given to me by a man. He arrived with a vibrator, handcuffs and tequila. I said well, honey, most men bring flowers, but I do like your style. I used that vibrator until it died many yrs later. He is one of my good memories.๐Ÿฆ‹
... and I'm sure there is a great and interesting story that is attached to that night! ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ”ฅWow! lol...
Ever thought of blogging and sharing some of your tales? Thanks for popping by and sharing. Sounds like it was fun! ๐Ÿ˜˜


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 10:47 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    You know I do have a vibrator, but to be honest I prefer REAL..
Of course real is always better. And in your case... you just have to nudge him... right?... lol ๐Ÿ˜˜
Always nice to see you. ๐Ÿ˜Š


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
4/11/2019 11:15 am

Great topic.

If I want to have an orgasm, external application to my clit is really all that I need. However, because of reading about the 'use it or lose it' principle of keeping the vagina tissues healthy and flexible, I do insert my vibrator as well.

I do think that using a vibrator too much sort of desensitizes your clit. Just speaking for myself, I'd probably have trouble making it happen with just my hand, at this point. It is what it is though. I'm not gonna give up my vibrator.

It's similar to what Dan Savage calls the 'death grip' syndrome with male masturbation where guys get so acclimated to the tight pressure of their own hands, that they have trouble coming to orgasm during PIV intercourse.


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
4/11/2019 11:17 am

Oh and do I still need a man? Of course. A vibrator will never replace skin to skin intimacy. But, given how picky I am about who gets to experience that with me, it's a good thing I have my vibrator as a back-up....


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 11:43 am

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    Oh and do I still need a man? Of course. A vibrator will never replace skin to skin intimacy. But, given how picky I am about who gets to experience that with me, it's a good thing I have my vibrator as a back-up....
Picky is good. It means you have standards and standards are good! ๐Ÿ˜Š
btw.... Disregard my 'tone', on your blog. The day has twisted, slightly left of center and my tongue, was accidentally sharpened... by some personal events.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 12:00 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    Great topic.

    If I want to have an orgasm, external application to my clit is really all that I need. However, because of reading about the 'use it or lose it' principle of keeping the vagina tissues healthy and flexible, I do insert my vibrator as well.

    I do think that using a vibrator too much sort of desensitizes your clit. Just speaking for myself, I'd probably have trouble making it happen with just my hand, at this point. It is what it is though. I'm not gonna give up my vibrator.

    It's similar to what Dan Savage calls the 'death grip' syndrome with male masturbation where guys get so acclimated to the tight pressure of their own hands, that they have trouble coming to orgasm during PIV intercourse.
Ever since you mentioned to me your menopause issues, I've been reading about it and learning how complex that whole thing can be. (ok now... here comes a flippant comment)... Is it possible that it's just God's way of evening things out between men and women... for all those multiple orgasms you've supposedly had, for the last 4 decades ? ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜˜
Perhaps I shouldn't have joked? Sorry... ๐Ÿ˜” That stuff just slips out...
I can understand where all that vibrating would numb you.
Hmm.. yep... and I've read all about that death grip. Although ... uncut men, do not (typically), have that problem. The foreskin provides a natural lubricant for the penis and one can achieve the big 'O' with almost no preasure at all. It's all a question of fluid mechanics and friction quotients. A lot less is needed to achieve the thrill. I guess, you'd have to be there. ๐Ÿค”

Hmm... Interesting stuff. Thanks for popping in and sharing your thoughts. ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
4/11/2019 12:16 pm

Sorry that your day went sideways! Hope things improve. No worries about blog comments, I like people to be real about what theyโ€™re thinking at any given moment.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 12:24 pm

    Quoting  :

Wow... That's a really nice story... You've never thought of writing it in your blog? Sounds romantic. You could even make it a series?... Ok... Just a thought... lol ๐Ÿ˜


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/11/2019 12:29 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    Sorry that your day went sideways! Hope things improve. No worries about blog comments, I like people to be real about what theyโ€™re thinking at any given moment.
Yep... I don't usually get bent, about anything. I'll internalize and rationalize. My day is fine. My ability to deal with it is sideways... Typical cliche, as far as the Aries profile goes...
You like that type of stuff on your blog? Well... I'll keep that to a minimum. Thanks for understanding.


Naughtypursuit 56F  
2766 posts
4/11/2019 3:52 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Really? Wow! Kool.... ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ‘
    Have you named any of them? You women are soooo funny... I swear... and you laugh at us men.. lol ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜
    Ya know... if you were ever to do a blog post, with a picture of all your little toys on display.. I would read it with great interest. Especially if you included a description of the 'effect' of each unique play item! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ˜˜
    Yep... Have you ever thought about that, or is it just too personal? ๐Ÿ˜ถ
    Vibrating rings? I'm an amateur here. Educate me. I'm too lazy to google it... lol
Stay tuned


Paulxx001 replies on 4/12/2019 3:42 am:
Oki doki.

missthee 58F  
4511 posts
4/12/2019 12:53 am

I'll take a real live (throbbing) man any day, over a sex toy.

Having said that, if it wasn't for insertables, I don't know how my sexuality would have evolved. I do thank my early curiosity and experimentation, before I was of legal age to purchase a bona fide sex toy. More so than learning how to pleasure myself, looking back I know that my experimentation with phallus-like objects helped me to get over feelings of guilt/shame/ignorance when it came time to experience the real thing.

I still have my first mail-order dildo stored in the back of the drawer. One day it may end up in a museum

I don't care for vibrators at all, as they buzz so fast. I don't like being rushed or forced.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/12/2019 3:44 am

    Quoting missthee:
    I'll take a real live (throbbing) man any day, over a sex toy.

    Having said that, if it wasn't for insertables, I don't know how my sexuality would have evolved. I do thank my early curiosity and experimentation, before I was of legal age to purchase a bona fide sex toy. More so than learning how to pleasure myself, looking back I know that my experimentation with phallus-like objects helped me to get over feelings of guilt/shame/ignorance when it came time to experience the real thing.

    I still have my first mail-order dildo stored in the back of the drawer. One day it may end up in a museum

    I don't care for vibrators at all, as they buzz so fast. I don't like being rushed or forced.
You still have your first one? lol.... ๐Ÿ˜
I'll bet, that one has some stories to share...
Thanks for popping in and sharing your thoughts... ๐Ÿ˜˜


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/12/2019 12:10 pm

    Quoting  :

Well.... one good friend, is better than a bunch of poor friends. I'd offer my help... with any motivation I can. You know where you can find it.
I understand what you're saying... I'm sure there will be a day... ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘


SeaGirlFL 60F
9220 posts
4/12/2019 6:06 pm

I have a couple of vibrators, and some dildos, but they do not get to play very often, lol. I'd much rather have a live, flesh and blood man than a piece of plastic.

"Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax." โ€“ Mark Black


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/12/2019 6:33 pm

    Quoting SeaGirlFL:
    I have a couple of vibrators, and some dildos, but they do not get to play very often, lol. I'd much rather have a live, flesh and blood man than a piece of plastic.
True... I won't disagree... Do have names for them?
OK.. lol Just stuff I hear about. ๐Ÿ˜
Can you imagine that woman... 28,000 years ago..... trying it out, for that first time? omg ๐Ÿ˜ฑ
The only thing men had,
.... back in the day..... were sheep... omg ๐Ÿ‘
LOL... Thanks for sharing your thoughts. ๐Ÿ˜˜


RyuFujin 56F  
1445 posts
4/12/2019 7:45 pm

Would you be able to 'do without' your favorite vibrator, dildo or toy?
Have you ever enjoyed using a vibrator or dildo with your partner?


1. I don't use it all the time, mainly just use my hand/fingers. Once in a while though, I need to catch a buzz...

2. Oh Hell yeah! But only on/in me, nobody else. Best sensation is when I'm on top, and he slides the toy in my bum and turns it up. Yowza!


"Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/12/2019 8:23 pm

    Quoting RyuFujin:
    Would you be able to 'do without' your favorite vibrator, dildo or toy?
    Have you ever enjoyed using a vibrator or dildo with your partner?


    1. I don't use it all the time, mainly just use my hand/fingers. Once in a while though, I need to catch a buzz...

    2. Oh Hell yeah! But only on/in me, nobody else. Best sensation is when I'm on top, and he slides the toy in my bum and turns it up. Yowza!
Hands and fingers are nice.... Sure... I can see that working! ๐Ÿ˜‰
Wow.... that sounds really Kool! I can deffinitely relate to that. Sounds very hot and exciting. I notice your hair is short now. Is it still short? Would you tie it up for me, so it wouldn't fly into my mouth?
Thanks for sharing those images. That was great! ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘


tulsaliza 65F
2390 posts
4/13/2019 11:03 am

I consider myself completely toy dependent. .Mostly due to my caregiver status over the last couple of years. I simply have not had the time nor inclination to cultivate a man or two to help fulfill the sexual needs.

I'm sure as time passes I will seek a man or two to help fulfill the sexual urges and needs but for now, the vibrators are perfectly fine.

Pleasure's a sin, and sometimes sin's a pleasure...
- Lord Byron, Don Juan


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/13/2019 11:59 am

    Quoting tulsaliza:
    I consider myself completely toy dependent. .Mostly due to my caregiver status over the last couple of years. I simply have not had the time nor inclination to cultivate a man or two to help fulfill the sexual needs.

    I'm sure as time passes I will seek a man or two to help fulfill the sexual urges and needs but for now, the vibrators are perfectly fine.
I totally understand where you are coming from. Makes perfect sense. ๐Ÿ˜Š
Hopefully... when the right time comes.... you will not have forgotten what to do. By the way... there is no way, my 'little friend', can ever approach that level of vibration..... I can try... I guess. ๐Ÿค”
Thanks for popping in. Have a great Saturday! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜Š


RyuFujin 56F  
1445 posts
4/13/2019 5:05 pm

Hands and fingers are nice.... Sure... I can see that working! ๐Ÿ˜‰
Wow.... that sounds really Kool! I can deffinitely relate to that. Sounds very hot and exciting. I notice your hair is short now. Is it still short? Would you tie it up for me, so it wouldn't fly into my mouth?
Thanks for sharing those images. That was great! ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘


It works for me, though I'd much prefer playtime with a partner.
My hair's been the same length for almost 30 years; just to the top of my shoulder blades down my back. Only had short hair once, never again. I like some length to it. I don't cut it anymore, it does its own thing.


"Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/13/2019 6:05 pm

    Quoting RyuFujin:
    Hands and fingers are nice.... Sure... I can see that working! ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Wow.... that sounds really Kool! I can deffinitely relate to that. Sounds very hot and exciting. I notice your hair is short now. Is it still short? Would you tie it up for me, so it wouldn't fly into my mouth?
    Thanks for sharing those images. That was great! ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘


    It works for me, though I'd much prefer playtime with a partner.
    My hair's been the same length for almost 30 years; just to the top of my shoulder blades down my back. Only had short hair once, never again. I like some length to it. I don't cut it anymore, it does its own thing.
Lol... yep... hair does it's own thing.๐Ÿ˜
Hope you have a peaceful Saturday night... ๐Ÿ‘๐ŸŒƒ๐Ÿ˜Š


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/17/2019 12:18 pm

    Quoting  :

For sure! Live... is the only way to go.... Toys are funny. Supposedly... some of you ladies give your favorites little pet names? lol ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜Š
Still... so much fun to play with.. I love to help her with the ins and outs of those little fellas.. Fascinating... how they magically disappear and thrn.... reappear... ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ฑ
Magic! โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜ฑ


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