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Do older men cry more (and other things)  

HandsomeDaddy7 65M
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10/17/2018 10:52 am

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10/18/2018 6:09 pm

Do older men cry more (and other things)

"Be quiet! Big boys don't cry! Big boys don't cry!" (10cc)

So we live in a society where it is considered of men that they are weak if they are seen crying. Be that at a funeral, a wedding, at a movie, or when a woman tells them adios. And to some degree, at least for me, it has conditioned me to remain macho, "manly" at times when I have to fight to hold back the tears.


However, getting to this age, the "golden years" dispensation, has some unlooked for, unthought of and unheard of personality differences. Here are a few that I've recognized.

1) I *freely* talk to other people/strangers in public. i.e. Walmart, gym, etc.
2) I speak less and listen more. (this isn't antithetical to #1)
3) I am more free with my money and time helping others.
4) I am way more nostalgic.
5) I am more likely to allow a tear to flow than to hold it back in silence.
6) I am more vocal while making love.

I guess as I have gotten older the question arises at certain circumstances "Why do you give a rat's ass?" The store clerk, I ask her if she colors her hair in a complimentary way. Someone in line in front of me scrounging for change or a dollar of two short, I offer to pay the difference. At funerals, if they really meant something to me, I won't hold back the tears and I will almost pontificate their good qualities while not sugar coating their not so good ones. I am much more encouraging. And I suppose it could be viewed negatively, I am much more of a mind to teach/inform people, especially much younger people. I can't help that. Too many years of doing it in the classroom. However, now its different. Sometimes I wished I was still teaching for a host of reasons.


So I guess all of this is to invite a discussion as to whether or not other men (women by observation) also have experienced that they are more emotionally open and expressive? Or do you think men become more curmudgeonly? I've seen that too, especially when I was younger around crusty old blue collar workers. Back then men seemed more likely to shrivel up as they grew older whereas now, like myself, men are more active, go to the gym regularly, travel, take cooking classes, make new friends.



You're thoughts/observations?

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