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3, 2, 1... 2.  

Drinkurwater 42F
20 posts
4/29/2019 12:22 am
3, 2, 1... 2.


Let's make this one short and not so sweet. My boyfriend, the one I was staying with until May 1 when I got paid and could find my own place in this new town... not so much a boyfriend anymore.

Everything was 100% fine, in my eyes until the morning he came home with his ex and told me his heart was always with her, he never stopped loving her, and I needed to move out so she could move in -- that day. It took about an hour, and I didn't fight it because you can't fight love even if it's a fucked up love.

He dropped me off in the rain, and there I was at the clinic with my backpack, purse, and crying like I didn't know how to control myself like I always do. I couldn't - I didn't have the time to process it and shove those feelings deep down. Since then I have. Since then I took two friends to get the rest of my stuff.

His ex kicked me down the basement stairs as I opened the door to walk down to get the last of my items. My knees, my back, my jaw - I have to make an appointment tomorrow to see what's temporary and what's permanent. That... THAT definitely took the amicable nature I was approaching this entire situation and fucking whipped it into the trash.

I'd love to say I antagonized her, or him. I'd love to say I did something wrong, everythging wrong, maybe just a tiny little thing. But before it went sour he assured me it was just that he couldn't get over her.

My life for the last month was a hilarious facade for me, and just therapy for him while I taught him how to love himself, be patient, and to see the good in almost everything. If only there was good in that ex-not ex of his.

I've got a lot to say about it but it's late -- and I just wanted to update you guys.

The 3 FWB? Oddly enough as one goes, the other two come back in my life, but not how they were before. Maybe tomorrow if I'm feeling okay I can elaborate.

Thanks guys... for being there.

backpocket13 50M
9007 posts
4/29/2019 6:34 am

Hey Darlin,
...........Lovers are like Busses,........Once you get off of one, another one comes along in fifteen minutes!.........
Sinfully Yours, backpocket13


mc_justmc 63M

4/29/2019 8:42 am

That's so fucked up. When I've been dumped I always keep my cool and just accept it, and 90%of the time the ones that dumped me live to regret it. I'm sure yours will, too.


Drinkurwater replies on 5/8/2019 4:08 pm:
Thanks - I agree, if it happens that way, then it isn't worth the fight. I can say it was the first time I've been dumped or broken up with, so I'm learning about that as well. Thankfully I love myself enough not to let it get to me... too much.

mrjinpoint2 47M  
2 posts
5/1/2019 6:15 pm

i am shocked let me know if i can help with anything i will try to help.


Drinkurwater replies on 5/8/2019 4:09 pm:
I can't say I'm too shocked considering the nature of our relationship from the start, and how much he was in love with her. Thank you for the offer to help - right now I think I just need to process it still. I haven't had time since I have to find a job and new place and everything. Thanks for reading.

Looking54937 39M
11 posts
5/4/2019 4:50 am

The sheer arrogance of some people is astounding to me at times. I think that when you recall this story years down the road you should describe yourself as a fighter and tell people that you burnt up all his belongings in the front yard while the neighbors cheered you on. 😉 Can't hurt right? Keep your head dear. This too shall pass.


Drinkurwater replies on 5/8/2019 4:11 pm:
I think I'll tell it just how it happened, and remember that I kept my hands to myself and tried to keep no hate in my heart. I just don't have room for it, it makes my soul feel so itchy and sad when I'm mad at people.

His stuff - I can say I may have accidentally grabbed his wireless headphones when I ran out the door. I'm thinking of giving them back because it keeps bugging me that I did. One day I'm hoping I can be evil and petty.

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