Your Opinion - Boys & Their Toys  

GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
1451 posts
9/13/2018 10:27 am
Your Opinion - Boys & Their Toys

Boys and Their Toys (and other fancy things)

I had a male friend who had a profile on a more vanilla site at one time and he had posted some pics of his “toys”.

I am curious as to your opinions of this...Do you think it is a good idea and will attract a woman to him? Or do you think it is a bad idea?

Obviously we are all free to have our profiles the way we want them and free to post on them anything we think may “help” the cause...lol

Personally my opinion would be that it smacks a little of a desperate man - hoping that his “toys” will help him get a woman….when all else fails.

I also think that it may attract a woman for all the wrong reasons. Men seem to complain that some women look at them as a “sugar daddy”, and it seems to me that this would certainly be the reason in a case such as this.

Do men really want a superficial...materialistic woman? Are some so desperate and dare I say pathetic (in my opinion) that they would resort to something like this?

Hey...if you're lucky enough to have nice things....great! But maybe get a woman on WHO you are first, and then let her see WHAT you have?

What do you think?






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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/13/2018 10:31 am

Just my opinion.....to attract someone to you in that way....you'll never really know if it's YOU....or the STUFF! Maybe they don't care?

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Nimothy777 62M  
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9/13/2018 11:12 am

I hear you Lady! For me I want to know it is me. But, I also know a bunch of guys who just want the sex. It is the old reality, "men give affection for sex, women give sex for love." I know many a guy that is that way. Me, I know that I am in the minority.


Tmptrzz 55F  
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9/13/2018 11:29 am

I have to agree with you as I don't think showing toys is a good idea comes across to me at least as kind of desperate and they have a hard time getting a woman.

But this is just my opinion, as I feel a man who will take the time and talk to a lady getting to know her and having a sense of humor is so much more important than the things they have!!! I hope you have a great day hun..

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redrockrascal 60M
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9/13/2018 11:42 am

I've read a number of profiles on PoF where the woman posts pics of their cars or motorcycles and their interest in cars/bikes is written about. If there is to be common interests and someone is a "car guy" or girl it would be fairly relevant info.

I have also seen a couple women here do the same.

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/13/2018 11:54 am

    Quoting Nimothy777:
    I hear you Lady! For me I want to know it is me. But, I also know a bunch of guys who just want the sex. It is the old reality, "men give affection for sex, women give sex for love." I know many a guy that is that way. Me, I know that I am in the minority.
Glad you are in the minority!

I want to know as well that someone wants me for me, not what I may have.

I want someone for the right reasons, not the wrong ones.

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/13/2018 11:57 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    I have to agree with you as I don't think showing toys is a good idea comes across to me at least as kind of desperate and they have a hard time getting a woman.

    But this is just my opinion, as I feel a man who will take the time and talk to a lady getting to know her and having a sense of humor is so much more important than the things they have!!! I hope you have a great day hun..
I'd rather know someone is interested in me...the person - than the material things I may have.

I agree with you - a sense of humor, honesty, personal integrity are more important than the material things someone has. But that's just me!

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mikelookin2 47M
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9/13/2018 12:01 pm

People should be attracted to the real person, the mind, the wit, the soul, the intellect, even the physical. Stuff can come and go, so toys are just that, toys.


GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/13/2018 12:04 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    I've read a number of profiles on PoF where the woman posts pics of their cars or motorcycles and their interest in cars/bikes is written about. If there is to be common interests and someone is a "car guy" or girl it would be fairly relevant info.

    I have also seen a couple women here do the same.
I'm sure it works both ways...I am not interested in women (in a romantic or sexual way) so I don't generally look at their profiles all the time, but I'm sure some may post their "toys" as well.

My opinion would still remain the same though....more for show of what you have - than who you are. Perhaps it's the same...the only way they can get interest.

I'm not saying that (common) interests aren't relevant....but perhaps better to be shared in the getting to know phase, as opposed to the possible "reason" for getting to know.

I did not mean to discriminate in the post, so sorry if it came off that way...

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/13/2018 12:10 pm

    Quoting mikelookin2:
    People should be attracted to the real person, the mind, the wit, the soul, the intellect, even the physical. Stuff can come and go, so toys are just that, toys.
Exactly! To me those things you mentioned are more important!

I was with a guy that had nice things like I pictured, but it didn't matter. I found out about those things much later. They were never the reason I was with him (and I'm not now).

To be with someone for the things they have seems materialistic and shallow....but that's just my opinion.

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pocogato12 66F  
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9/13/2018 12:22 pm

Frankly, pictures of his toys whether they are cars, cycles, or sexual toys have very little appeal to me- kinda in the same realm as dick pics. They show me no reality as to who the man really is

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Owatalife 62M
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9/13/2018 12:39 pm

Gold Diggers are not hard to find so your pal will no doubt get plenty of responses for all the wrong reasons though.


ItsThtPervertGuy 38M
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9/13/2018 12:44 pm

OOOps. At first I thought you meant sex toys! Guess I have to tone the pervert down at times!!

But this is a good question. I not only think no believe it shows desperation (allot) but also makes you seem to be 1. A sugar daddy. Superficial and quite boastful and a target as you never know who are on these site looking to set someone up. I think more older Men have a habit of doing what you are saying as a way too attract younger Woman!!

Just be yourself and try not to over reach. You don't want end up tied up with a gag on ( not in a good way) with guns in your face asking where is the money!! (Seen something that on one of those lifetime movies this past Sunday!! Yes I watch Women's tv stations! Some really good movies!! )


GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/13/2018 12:44 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Frankly, pictures of his toys whether they are cars, cycles, or sexual toys have very little appeal to me- kinda in the same realm as dick pics. They show me no reality as to who the man really is
Same here....it just makes me feel almost like they are trying to "buy" you (a woman) in a way.

I'm also a firm believer in dick pics being insignificant - they don't tell who the man is, what he has inside of him...who he is! THAT is much more important than the size of his dick!

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/13/2018 12:47 pm

    Quoting Owatalife:
    Gold Diggers are not hard to find so your pal will no doubt get plenty of responses for all the wrong reasons though.
Exactly.....and if that's what he should want....then good luck on anything of quality or substance.

Even just for sex....it is pretty pathetic in my book...but that's just me I suppose.

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/13/2018 12:53 pm

    Quoting ItsThtPervertGuy:
    OOOps. At first I thought you meant sex toys! Guess I have to tone the pervert down at times!!

    But this is a good question. I not only think no believe it shows desperation (allot) but also makes you seem to be 1. A sugar daddy. Superficial and quite boastful and a target as you never know who are on these site looking to set someone up. I think more older Men have a habit of doing what you are saying as a way too attract younger Woman!!

    Just be yourself and try not to over reach. You don't want end up tied up with a gag on ( not in a good way) with guns in your face asking where is the money!! (Seen something that on one of those lifetime movies this past Sunday!! Yes I watch Women's tv stations! Some really good movies!! )
LOL.....even the sex toys should be reserved for a little later....lol

I agree...desperate...boastful and downright stupid are correct words to use. I also agree at times it is older men (this friend is) that may use this "tactic"...whether it is aimed at attracting younger or just anyone - could go either way.

You make some good points about possible motives for a woman going for a man like that. YIKES.....robbery - I hadn't thought of that one...lol

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Platosgames 96M  
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9/13/2018 2:44 pm

I get grief at times about my truck. I refuse to get rid of it. I love that truck.

But it's also something that's held over from when I used to do Estate Tax Planning. I had a client that was worth over 40 million. He drove a old truck, dressed in old jeans. You'd never guess he was wealthy, I asked him once why he didn't just get a new truck. He said, why? This one still runs.

These days, I'm sorta the same way, except I don't have his millions. haha. But sure I could just go buy another truck, but why? This one is just fine, and did I mention, I love that truck.

It's also been a great qualifier for me. if someone doesn't like me because they don't like my truck, then they're probably not just interested in me.

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BiggLala 46F  
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9/13/2018 3:24 pm

Ummm....yeah, like pervertguy, I thought you meant sex toys too. My answer was going to be waaay different. I mean...this IS a sex site, lol....and I'm a perv, sooo... Ahem...anyway...

I think the men who lead with what they have will mostly attract women who just want them for their money. It's the same logic a lot of men use on dating sites saying that women who dress 'too sexy' or provocative will mostly attract men who just want sex.

I also think those men who lead with their toys are superficial in that it's all about looks. They're most likely someone I won't mesh very well with...but they won't be interested in me anyway. Cool!

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BiggLala 46F  
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9/13/2018 3:26 pm

    Quoting Platosgames:
    I get grief at times about my truck. I refuse to get rid of it. I love that truck.

    But it's also something that's held over from when I used to do Estate Tax Planning. I had a client that was worth over 40 million. He drove a old truck, dressed in old jeans. You'd never guess he was wealthy, I asked him once why he didn't just get a new truck. He said, why? This one still runs.

    These days, I'm sorta the same way, except I don't have his millions. haha. But sure I could just go buy another truck, but why? This one is just fine, and did I mention, I love that truck.

    It's also been a great qualifier for me. if someone doesn't like me because they don't like my truck, then they're probably not just interested in me.
Don't mind an old truck...but...
Ford, Chevy, Dodge...what?
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Platosgames 96M  
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9/13/2018 4:53 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    Don't mind an old truck...but...
    Ford, Chevy, Dodge...what?
    Your answer IS important.

Well duh, it's a Ford. Is there really any other real truck?

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author51 55F  
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9/14/2018 1:31 am

For me those kind of toys do nothing for me and do not impress me at all..but will impress the little girls looking for a Sugar Daddy...Good post..

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Kalbi54 63M  
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9/14/2018 7:11 am

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let_me_see1 59M  
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9/14/2018 7:35 am

As others have said, yes, I thought at first you meant sex toys. And who needs toys to have fun in bed, right? LOL

But I think there is another perspective on the issue of having and bragging that you have something nice and expensive. If a person thinks that much of their toys that they need to make it an advertised item here or on other dating sites, how much time will they have for me in their life? I have seen women post pics with their Harley's and pools and at extravagant vacation spots. Those are all nice, but will they be more interested in those things than a partner? Time is an investment of life into something you love. So, I am not keen on the car pics and pics of the seven dogs that someone rescued. Ok, that is my two cents! LOL

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/14/2018 10:03 am

    Quoting Platosgames:
    I get grief at times about my truck. I refuse to get rid of it. I love that truck.

    But it's also something that's held over from when I used to do Estate Tax Planning. I had a client that was worth over 40 million. He drove a old truck, dressed in old jeans. You'd never guess he was wealthy, I asked him once why he didn't just get a new truck. He said, why? This one still runs.

    These days, I'm sorta the same way, except I don't have his millions. haha. But sure I could just go buy another truck, but why? This one is just fine, and did I mention, I love that truck.

    It's also been a great qualifier for me. if someone doesn't like me because they don't like my truck, then they're probably not just interested in me.
Ahhhhhh....but you don't have pics of that truck on your profile! I looked....lol

Btw.....I love your profile, well written and funny!

It's not a man having the toys, hey more power to him if he can afford them....unless he came from money (again - good for him)...he probably worked hard to get and afford them.

it's the using of them as an "enticement" on a profile that is what I find somewhat distasteful! The only thing more distasteful is a woman that would decide to fuck the man because of his toys, or what she hopes to get from him!

Thanks for your comment to my post

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/14/2018 10:14 am

    Quoting BiggLala:
    Ummm....yeah, like pervertguy, I thought you meant sex toys too. My answer was going to be waaay different. I mean...this IS a sex site, lol....and I'm a perv, sooo... Ahem...anyway...

    I think the men who lead with what they have will mostly attract women who just want them for their money. It's the same logic a lot of men use on dating sites saying that women who dress 'too sexy' or provocative will mostly attract men who just want sex.

    I also think those men who lead with their toys are superficial in that it's all about looks. They're most likely someone I won't mesh very well with...but they won't be interested in me anyway. Cool!
LOL....I can be a perv too and God knows I love me a good sex toy...hahaha!

I absolutely agree that a man posting pics of his expensive toys is most likely to attract the "gold diggers" of the world out there. Hey...if he wants a woman that only wants him for his $$$....then he's just looking for a shallow and materialistic person, not a woman of substance. He deserves what he may get....

To me the toys would be a nice perk, don't get me wrong....but they are not in the least what is important to me! I want the WHO a man is....(hopefully - caring-honest-funny and possessing integrity) not WHAT the man has!

Had a man who had nice things.....but he lied to me and lost my trust!

Shame on him.....his nice things did nothing for him with me, he lost a decent woman...oh well!

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/14/2018 10:20 am

    Quoting author51:
    For me those kind of toys do nothing for me and do not impress me at all..but will impress the little girls looking for a Sugar Daddy...Good post..
Damn straight Joy.....they do nothing for me either and don't impress me!

I imagine if he's posting those kinds of pics and has half a brain - he knows what he's going to attract, and that must be what he's looking for!

A real woman would probably intimidate him....

Glad you liked the post....thanks for saying

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/14/2018 10:21 am

    Quoting Kalbi54:
    Steven Mnuchin - Treasury Secretary married to Louise Linton
    Kah-ching
Yep.....good example! And I'm sure there are tons more......lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
1590 posts
9/14/2018 10:30 am

    Quoting let_me_see1:
    As others have said, yes, I thought at first you meant sex toys. And who needs toys to have fun in bed, right? LOL

    But I think there is another perspective on the issue of having and bragging that you have something nice and expensive. If a person thinks that much of their toys that they need to make it an advertised item here or on other dating sites, how much time will they have for me in their life? I have seen women post pics with their Harley's and pools and at extravagant vacation spots. Those are all nice, but will they be more interested in those things than a partner? Time is an investment of life into something you love. So, I am not keen on the car pics and pics of the seven dogs that someone rescued. Ok, that is my two cents! LOL
Ohhhh.....those kinds of toys can have their place in bed.....lol

Hmmmmm.....you introduce another side to it that I hadn't thought of!

I can't stand a braggart.....so someone posting pics like that would send up a red flag for me anyway. Not that they have those nice things, so much as clearly those are the things in life that are so important to them - that where do I then fit in? So I agree with you......

Someone like that tends to be shallow and superficial.....self absorbed and usually not really a giving person!

No thanks......lol

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Paulxx001 61M
2306 posts
9/14/2018 12:02 pm

I think that men... Really.... Don't... Give a shit - except for those that do... and they're faking it... Lol ok.. Not all men. I'd love that Merc btw. I have absolutely nothing to offer, except a home that's paid for and a cook who's willing to share a smile or two with a member of the opposite sex.. Omg sex? Eeee... Lol. I'm low key.... Under promise and over deliver. Cooking is not the only game that I play. Each man has his own strategy. Does it lead to a warm and wet and safe place? Ooooo.. I'll leave now...

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BiggLala 46F  
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9/14/2018 2:43 pm

    Quoting Platosgames:
    Well duh, it's a Ford. Is there really any other real truck?
Chevy or Dodge owners would disagree. My mother says Ford stands for Fix Or Repair Daily and Found On Road Dead. LOL!

I'm fine as long as you weren't going to say Toyota or Nissan. Not that they don't have 'nice' trucks, but...

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/14/2018 3:39 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I think that men... Really.... Don't... Give a shit - except for those that do... and they're faking it... Lol ok.. Not all men. I'd love that Merc btw. I have absolutely nothing to offer, except a home that's paid for and a cook who's willing to share a smile or two with a member of the opposite sex.. Omg sex? Eeee... Lol. I'm low key.... Under promise and over deliver. Cooking is not the only game that I play. Each man has his own strategy. Does it lead to a warm and wet and safe place? Ooooo.. I'll leave now...
You're most likely correct. Most are just happy to get laid and they care not much for the how or why it happens. Just that it does. I suppose that saddens me a little honestly.

I guess I'm a dreamer, or perhaps just delusional, and hope that there are some that actually care to have a woman want them for who they are.

My last lover was more interested in how wet I got and how many times I came...with the focus on my "nether regions".......not the fact that she foolishly cared for him, and was a decent, honest woman.....who possessed personal integrity.

Yikes.....that got all deep and heavy.....sorry......lol

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Paulxx001 61M
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9/14/2018 4:55 pm

The advantage of commenting last, is that I get to read everyone else's comments and your replies. My gosh, you're deep and so serious, considering it is a Friday! Would you like to join me in a glass of wine? Some men AND some women, play THATgame. The trick is, to find out early - what game they are playing. Yep... It's tough to figure out. Like I said.... Show nothing and surprise them.... Just like BBQ ribs.... Low and slow.... Low.... and ... slow... Best of luck dear...!

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9/18/2018 3:37 pm

hmmm


TrucknLuvn 54M/36F  
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9/22/2018 10:15 pm

I have yet to be impressed by any guy that tries to use his "penis on wheels" sports car as a selling point with the ladies.

Wow. He has a car. I have one too. I prefer personality over possessions.

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/23/2018 6:32 pm

    Quoting TrucknLuvn:
    I have yet to be impressed by any guy that tries to use his "penis on wheels" sports car as a selling point with the ladies.

    Wow. He has a car. I have one too. I prefer personality over possessions.
LOL.....I like that: "penis on wheels"

Funny because that's exactly what it is when you think about it.

The only women they are getting with it are most likely not worth having, because they are shallow and out for what they think the guy will provide for them.

I agree 100% that there are other facets to a man much more important and attractive than his fancy "stuff".

Some men don't care as long as they get any piece of ass.....

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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9/23/2018 6:34 pm

LOL....thanks for your opinion

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alohashirt50 68M
242 posts
10/8/2018 7:51 am

all my toys are for me, not to attract a woman,


Aquarian4u4 49M  
24 posts
10/10/2018 4:29 am

Shit! Got no toys, so I am SOL! LOL


GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
1590 posts
10/10/2018 5:57 am

    Quoting alohashirt50:
    all my toys are for me, not to attract a woman,
I'm sure they are....but I'm just saying that men that post pics of their toys to get a woman's interest could be asking for trouble.

Nice toys could equate a man with some money, and she could want to divest you of some.....lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 58F  
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10/10/2018 5:59 am

    Quoting Aquarian4u4:
    Shit! Got no toys, so I am SOL! LOL
Well then if a woman chooses you - she is strictly choosing you - for you....not what you can buy for her because of a perceived wealth.

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astute2r3 63M
204 posts
10/12/2018 11:32 am

Do enjoy the toys, but they are not advertised nor used to attract. They are just enjoyed by me . I would imagine that "some boys" just enjoy their toys in the same way that "some women" enjoy their toys too. I have noticed that some women have "Boy Toys", which kind of redefines "Boys and their Toys" all together.


champ3702 50M
19 posts
10/12/2018 10:11 pm

My 73 vet got me play back inn the day, miss that car,lol


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