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Dating sites for me are a total waiste of time
Before I go on, compared to others, I've found the format of this forum to be most difficult and a confusing one to navigate. I can't even find how to view the replies to my earlier messages. No matter, I won't be here much longer anyway.
I've concluded that the rest of my life will be spent alone, without a partner; permanent or temporary. This conclusion has been reached after having spent the last 5 months on various dating and meeting sites and ending up empty handed,... again.
Why? You girls aren't going to like what I say, but tough; it's a truth reached after as I've said, 4 sites, 5 months and trying to communicate with THOUSANDS of women, hence this is not a generalization.
If I were stupid, or a drunk or drug addict, or even just really fat or plain butt fuck ugly, I could understand the difficulty. But at 46 years of age, I'm experienced, stay in shape and after having spent over $18,000-00 on cosmetic surgery, I look like a friggin' film star compared to most men close to my age.
The reason is; women have UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS. I've been looking at women in their late 30's and early to mid 40's, (that's reasonable for a man my age, right?). As soon as they see my age, they think,'forget it', because they all want a man in his early 30's, AND ACTUALLY THINK THEY'RE GOING TO GET ONE, including women looking for a permanent relationship. Where are you coming from? Those guys are looking at women in their late 20's and early 30's, who have got it ALL HAPPENING. Do you really think they're going to take YOU instead? In most cases, NO WAY, no matter how good you think you look. And if you do happen to score one,(every girl on the planet wants a handsome 30 year old), it won't be for long, I GUARANTEE.
In addition to this, when I try to make contact with someone, they don't even have the decency to reply, even if the answer is 'no thanks' and even when I ask to be replied to whether it's yes or no. This happens 99% of the time. They think that courtesy need only be extended to those they're attracted to. I don't buy the argument that these women are inundated with contacts and don't have the time to answer everyone, because most of the dating sites give you the option of browsing whilst being invisible; leaving you to contact only those you want. But women don't take up that option, because they like to bragg about how many 'hits' they're getting and it would be too much for an attractive woman's ego to bear, if they had to do the chasing instead of being chased.
I managed to meet ONE in person, and went on a date after that. For a time following the date, I was overwhelmed with lovely emails and text messages about how handsome I am and how she misses me; then it just stopped... dead. It doesn't take a Harvard graduate to work out what happened. She met someone else online and all her feelings for me disappeared in AN INSTANT. She never told me the truth about that; they never do. Similarly I've set up other meetings that never took place; again before it got that far, all communication suddenly stops without explanation; your emails get ignored, but for the same reason no doubt. When you try to reply to them and tell them they've no right to treat you that way, you get reported for 'abuse'; They say YOU'RE abusing THEM! As though it's their right to treat you like dirt and not expect a backlash from it!
The only offers I do get are from those 10 years OLDER than me! Even they, it would seem, have illusions of granduer! They get their noses out of joint, wondering why I'm not interested in a grossly out of shape woman with the personality of a house plant and 13 children. 'It's not all about looks' some of them say, to which I reply, 'Then why are you contacting me? Why not someone your own age and in your weight division?'. Hopefully this may give you 40 something women an insight into what most of the 30 something men think!
I've had enough of getting my soul destroyed by girls lining up men's profiles as though they're shopping for a new car; because they don't treat you like a human being. I'm finding it exactly the same in my short time on Horny.net; every contact I try and make is ignored. The only way a man like myself has any hope is to flaunt lots of cash, (don't deny that this gets 'em wet). Well, if I wanted a prostitute, I wouldn't have to seek them on a dating site. I think that's where I'll go from now on. At least a prostitute is honest about what they're intentions with you are.
What has all the bra burning, womens rights chanting, as though embarking on a crusade toward some moral high ground led us to? All I can see is the modern woman is nothing but a self centered, self serving, greedy mercenary. Then they want respect!
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the trouble with dating sites is men out number the women by 10-1 so women can afford to pick and choose. unfortunately some, not all, trample on the ones that dont fit their criteria.
women get lots of mail...mostly saying 'lets fuck' so they tend to ignore those. standard women can only reply to 10 emails per day and thats only subject to profile views. form emails are generally ignored too. you need to make your mail stand out from the rest, be original.
if you are only interested in women of a certain shape, age, colour, weight, height, etc put it in your profile. at least then if they are being rejected they know why.
i have to say from a personal point of view that i think your attitude sucks. not all women are the same.
It is always by way of pain one arrives at pleasure ~ Marquis de Sade
rm_enigmat1 replies on 2/27/2009 6:21 pm:
If my attitude sucks, then there's a very good reason for it; that is because of everything that I said in my first post. You've chosen to ignore most of what I wrote because it inconveniently provides no support to your point of view. You're not a fella, so you don't know what it's like. I have no problem with women saying no. My problem is NEARLY ALL of them don't even reply so they obviously think they're too good to be courteous, unless it's Orlando Bloom who sends them a wink or a message. Who are these people that have such a high opinion of themselves? Say what you like, but my findings are what they are. |
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Sounds like some anger issues to me. Maybe a little vanity too. I'm an out of shape 37 year old and I don't have problems meeting guys in their 20's and 30's on a regular basis. I wouldn't respond to an angry, needy 46 year old guy that's had plastic surgery. Oh well.
rm_enigmat1 replies on 2/27/2009 6:55 pm:
You're a woman and you're calling me vain? Your capacity for instant judgement is astounding. Vain because of plastic surgery? Did it not occur that it may be necessary as part of my work, and because of this it's also tax deductable?
Needy? Why, because I'm on a dating site, JUST LIKE YOU?
And you boast too, 'Oh, I have no problem meeting guys in their 20's and 30's'!
And my profile mind you doesn't say, 'I'm an angry 46 year old'. Anger is the result of what has happened. And it happens all the time because MOST of you girls have this blase' attitude toward the male of the species BECAUSE of the attention you do get by flashing pierced pussy's online for the entire world to see. I would never contact someone like that; who displayed an overwhelming desire for attention at any cost; definitely a sign that there's something wrong at the other end! I wonder how many 20 and 30 year olds you'd score by showing your other end? Revel in the attention while you can lady, because it won't last forever; then you'll be like those 50+ woman who do have trouble finding a worthwhile partner, and maybe just like them, you might learn to be courteous. |
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Lets see, you reached the age of 45, still single, spent 5 months on a dating site and suddenly became bitter. Contrary to the TV ads, dating sites generally suck (especially if you consider the BDSM group to be some sort of dating site).
Since we have not seen your introductory email, it is really hard for us to comment on why women always seem to hit the "delete" key. If you come across as pushy demanding a response, or frustrated that nobody seems to write you back...we will hit the delete key.
Try sending an email with some fun questions, something that makes it easy to respond to.
Also, men getting plastic surgery, that is sort of a red flag signalling that you are way too focused on yourself.
No harm done in giving up the internet dating scene, the most efficient way to meet people anyway is through friends at social events etc etc. Internet dating is tough, lets face it, how many serious relationships last when you talk about sex or see naked pictures of each other before you actually meet
rm_enigmat1 replies on 2/28/2009 9:03 am:
Once again I'm hearing another opinion from someone who is making a judgement before they are in posession of even the tiniest facts. Where does it say I'm still single? Perhaps I've been married in the past. You say dating sites suck? Well, that's one thing we agree on, but in my experience the type of people on them are no different to those in the real world; that's why I tried it! In addition I've tried all types, BDSM sites, regular dating sites, 4 in all, and the results were the same in each case.
You've never seen any of the many posts I've sent, so how do you reach the conclusion that I'm pushy? Why do you write the things you do before you know what you're talking about? Do you think it's possible that everything I'm saying may just be correct? Most of you girls wouldn't like that, but just because you disagree with something it does not make it invalid.
As I've said, in my line of work one must look their best, hence the plastic surgery. I don't advertise the fact I've had it done when I'm online looking for a date, then you describe it as being a 'red flag' before you're even know what you're saying. Maybe there's a clue in what you did say; which is that people these days are too quick to judge. Maybe these online women look at my picture and think I've posted one when I was 10 years younger so they conclude I'm a liar or something. Whatever the case either they think I'm a sleaze, a drip or just plain stupid, or women are over demanding and just too hard to please. It's gotta be one or the other.
It's a well known fact, (and I've read it often enough in women's magazines) that girls prefer 'bad boys'; even though bad boy types will ALWAYS in the end use or abuse a woman in some way. That doesn't stop females from having this strange desire for these self centered scoundrels and I believe this is also a big part of my problem. I personally know of 5 other men who are in a similar predicament; nice guys, handsome for their age, financially secure but women don't want them because they DON'T WANT NICE GUYS. Instead they prefer to be used, conned and sometimes beaten by egotistical morons and in two particular cases that I know of, STILL LUST AFTER THEM! What hope have I got?
Maybe what I'm saying just might be true. I've spent enough time doing research and that isn't just my bad experiences with dating sites, and not just analyzing my own experiences. I don't have a problem debating these points with anybody, but please, before you convey your thoughts, make sure you know what you're talking about. |
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Wow...way to sell yourself man.
After reading your rant I think I have it figured out though, why nobody gets back to you. You seem to deliberately set yourself up for failure. Look at that thing you wrote. I don't think your attitude will have women tripping over themselves to fuck you. Exactly what makes you so special? Do you deserve to get laid any more than the rest of us?
Honestly, what did you expect writing something like that? You are, quite literally, the author of your own misery here. No website can help you with that.
rm_enigmat1 replies on 2/28/2009 3:02 pm:
You don't get it pal. I'm not here to try and meet anyone anymore. I'm here to vent my anger and get the hell out for good. Why else would I express such anger on a public forum. Are you paying attention or are you like everyone else who has responded to my comments? |
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You just continue to prove us all right. Pissed off at the world isn't very becoming and definitely not getting you anywhere. You use your job and "tax deductions" as an excuse for plastic surgery. How amusing. And actually, I'm realistic in the fact that I'm on a sex site...looking for sex to fill my spare time, not a relationship. I was not attempting to boast about meeting younger men, merely responding to your post.... "because they all want a man in his early 30's, AND ACTUALLY THINK THEY'RE GOING TO GET ONE" And it definitely seems like your anger was there long before you joined Horny.net. You know a true sign of psychosis is being able to trick yourself into believing your own lies. At least I know why I'm here and who I am.
rm_enigmat1 replies on 2/28/2009 3:09 pm:
Prove you right! How? Read carefully; I'm not trying to get anywhere here anymore. I'm not being pissed off on here to get sympathy.
Now according to you I believe my own lies! Forgive me for being so stupid! Everything I've said happened in my imagination! In reality I'm getting offers left right and center! How could I have been so blind? |
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I offer my comments knowing that there are actually men out there that women write back to. Without seeing one of your posts (a fact I had commented on in my post but which you seemed to ignore) it is hard to determine why you don't get any response. However, if what you are saying is true about getting no responses but are really a great catch, you are doing something wrong in terms that introductory email that is causing all your emails to be subject to the delete key.
rm_enigmat1 replies on 2/28/2009 3:51 pm:
Of course there are men who get replies. I don't recall saying there are not. I'd be surprised if those built like an adonis and well endowed didn't do good here. What I am saying if you listen properly, is based on my experience, one is not likely to do well if you're not in that category, WHICH DOESN'T SURPRISE ME, why would it? I'm saying that women don't even have the decency to be courteous enough to even say 'no thanks'. Why should someone be treated like a piece of dirt for doing nothing other than using these sites the way they were intended? I've always expected most to say NO, but never expected to be treated with contempt, just for being polite. 'I'm too good for him to even bother replying' is what happens. 'Thanks, but no thanks' is all that needs to be said; the same as I do when I'm not attracted to someone who contacts me. Perhaps I'm too old fashioned, and courtesy has no place in this magnificent, fast paced and politically correct world.
This is what has lead me to my conclusion that women have unrealistic expectations; an average 45 year old who will only respond to a hunky 32 year old or in my case 55 year olds trying to snag me, and wondering why I don't take the bait! You see what I'm saying? They expect you to accept what they won't accept for themselves. This hipocracy is what I'm tired of. I don't think I've ever tried to contact someone whom I thought was out of my league. You may recall me say that I've had replies, but they never got to a 'meeting stage' because inevitably someone 'better' must have come along. I understand this can happen and DON'T BLAME THEM FOR CHANGING THEIR MINDS. They all just think it gives them the right to ignore my emails without explanation, and treat me as though I never existed. Let's see how you feel if this happened to you dozens of times. Like I said, it's like they're shopping for a new car, 'ooh that one looks good,....oh, wait a minute, look at this one! Fuck that other one!'Is that how people should be treated? Well, that's what happens to me, EVERY FUCKING TIME AND I'M SICK OF IT. I'm not trying to find anyone anymore; I'm saying my piece and I'm gone for good. |
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well, on behalf of all the other people in this group, let me be the first to say...
good bye
rm_enigmat1 replies on 2/28/2009 7:42 pm:
Indeed. I expected nothing less than sarcasm from a person who takes pride in displaying images of themselves getting butt fucked on all fours. |
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Nicely said nastytease4U
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No, I'm honestly not paying attention to anything you have said. You have said nothing that's worth any attention whatsoever. It's more humor and disbelief that someone would be so whiny that compelled me to respond.
Buh-bye...
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Wow...way to sell yourself man.
After reading your rant I think I have it figured out though, why nobody gets back to you. You seem to deliberately set yourself up for failure. Look at that thing you wrote. I don't think your attitude will have women tripping over themselves to fuck you. Exactly what makes you so special? Do you deserve to get laid any more than the rest of us?
Honestly, what did you expect writing something like that? You are, quite literally, the author of your own misery here. No website can help you with that.
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